When does it become comfortable to have your adult children (over 21) drink in your company? On special occasions or anytime they choose?

Once your child is legally old enough to do so, we can only hope they are equally responsible to know what is appropriate around their parents. I think that on special occasions, such as weddings, New Years, holiday dinners or the like, it's perfectly acceptable to have a drink or two. After all they are old enough and can enjoy themselves as well.

However if you see they are drinking at all hours of the day, and with total disregard for your company, maybe you need to talk with them. Explain that you don't feel it's appropriate, and perhaps they should consider their actions. If you feel the problem is more severe, help them to seek the proper counseling.It's better to be proactive in this type of situation, then to ignore it.

Suggest they talk with someone, or seek professional treatment. Only you can decide what makes you uncomfortable. Draw the line with your children if you feel the need, after all, they are still your children no matter the age.

You should always let them feel comfortable and don't treat it as a special occasion or anything. Let them do it casualy, actually, invite them, at dinner time, for a glass of wine maybe. My parents did this since the first time I asked if I could taste it, around 12, they just gave me a mini glass of wine, I tasted it, like any other thing, and that was it... nothing big, no fuzz, was just like when I tasted ham or peas...ok, was just a sip, but they didn't react weirdly or something they just said 'sure' and I tasted it and then I turned 21 and it was nothing new, I didn't really care about it being there... .... no one in my family has ever gone cerazy about alcohol, why, cos its ust there, its human to not feel the need to go crazy about it.

If you make it sound like a forbidden, bad thing, it becomes more attractive, if it's just there since always,it's an everyday thing and you don't really understand why people go crazy about it at 21. If you feel awkwrd letting them drink a beer with you they'll go crazy and get drunk with their friends and whatnot away from you becuase now they can do it. Thats it, youre 21, alcohol is the prize.It shouldnt be.

So yeah let them drink around you, a glass of wine, a beer, maybe some cocktail in a restaurant. Like a normal thing, during the day.It's fine... don't offer more, be sure at first they won't ask for more on their own, and if they eventually get drunk, let them get drunk, actually, make sure its on vodka so they get a horrible hang over and learn on it, act normally and then when they are feeling the hang over laugh openly and say 'beginers! HAHA oh sorrrrrry you need some tylenol or something?

' If theyre smart they won't do it again, just make sure they get a bad hang over. And never ever yell at them or anything, just make sure they learn on their own, make sure to have activities they love happening on saturday noon, so if they have a hang over they miss them... but don't even warn them so they feel guilty and unhealthy and stupid when it happens... best way to learn :)P And, lets face it, we all have gotten drunk sometime, andwe learn, and we know someday we miiiight let it happena gain, just no so bad... and if you know of anyone who dies ina drunk car accident... let them know, without telling them it could happen to them or anything, just like 'oh damn, leslie died in a car accident last night.... aaah she was so drunk, damn it, stupid woman' and thats it... I guess... I mean, I don't know because my experience is in the first paragraph but... shyness and yelling and awkwardness won't help for sure, remember young adults are in the hard-core experience way of learning and remember getting drunk isnt the end of the world either... theres a limit, yes... but you cannot control it as a parent just saying 'theres a limit here and you must obey' cos it won't work... sorry about the babbling but, thats kind of how I see it. Good luck :).

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