When you have your baby, are you going to post pictures of him/her on the internet? (Facebook, etc?)?

It doesn't feel right to me. I feel that death is a very personal experience. I would feel I was making a spectacle of my baby by posting his picture online like that.

But, I agree, it's up to her. I just would not feel right about it. And I don't think that people would know how to react.

It would put them in a very uncomfortable position. Edit- Char did raise an excellent point when she related it to posting an older person's picture online. I for sure would have taken issue with this if someone had posted my mother's picture online when she died when I was 18.

And I believe my mother would have been horrified to know that someone had done something like that to her. My other main objection (for me, if I were the parent of the baby) would be that anything you put online is now the property of the world. No matter how private your photos are, they are not safe from piracy.

How sad would it be to have those images used for entertainment, gawking, and other inappropriate purposes? I think that would be terribly disrespectful to the deceased. So, I would not personally post images of this sort.

If I was going to post them on Facebook, I would be VERY cautious about the people who are able to see them. Miscarriage and stillbirth are triggers for some people, and to be merrily going through your wall posts and being bombarded with photographs of a dead baby is just inconsiderate. I understand that it may help you cope to have those pictures for your own viewing, but don't post them online for anyone to see -- or at least limit the people who can see it to people who actually want to see it.

Facebook users have, on average, 130 friends ... do you really think all 130 of them want/need to see those photographs or wouldn't be offended/saddened by them? But it's pretty clear that as a society, we are desensitized to some things. I took an ethics class in college, and there was a picture of a woman falling from a balcony.

Seconds after that photo was snapped, she was dead on the ground. We had to decide if it was appropriate to show in the news. I guess I just think that if having photographs are going to help you cope, that's fine and that's your business.

There are open casket funerals too, and that helps people cope. But I don't think it's appropriate to subject people who may not be aware of your situation to potentially offensive photographs without letting them know and letting them choose whether or not to view them. (On Facebook, that's not really possible.

On a site like Shutterfly, where you can share the link with people who express an interest in seeing them, that's more private.).

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