Where do grown ups make friends? read on... (Please read the entire question before answering. thanks)?

Read on... (Please read the entire question before answering. Thanks) My husband is 53 and I am 35. We really struggle making like minded friends.

We don't belong to a church, we don't have children. Where do people like us make friends. We both are educated, we love cards and coffee and wine and games and fun and cars and swimming and sports and all kinds of things.

We are very interested in people who live outside of the box and think outside of the box. We don't care about age, sexual preference, race, size, socio economic status, or any other thing. We do want people who are honest, people who don't do drugs.

Where would you recommend we start? How have you been successful with this? Please answer only if you have information based on our life that I mentioned above.

I know people with kids can make friends with parents and have lots in common with other people or if you go to a church that is a good jumping off point. Since none of those things are pertinent to our lives, I really would appreciate ideas that are related to our lifestyle/life? Asked by Sophiethedog 49 months ago Similar Questions: grown ups make friends read entire question answering Recent Questions About: grown ups make friends read entire question answering Lifestyle > Relationships.

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Yes, it seems it gets harder and harder to make friends as we get older. Since I stopped going to church.... most of my socializing is done with my family, and extended family. It must be even harder if you have no family around.

My suggestion would be, maybe try joining some common interest groups, where you could meet people who like the same things you do. For instance, if you both like to read, maybe join a book discussion group. Lots of local libraries have book clubs, and groups like that.

If you are interested in art, maybe take some classes, or cooking. I once took a class on vegetarian cooking and met some great people I actually got to know very well. My husband and I also tried a dance class years ago.

We didn't do too well with the dancing part, but met lots of nice friends. There are lots of dance studios out there who give lessons in salsa dancing, etc. Perhaps if you are animal lovers you could volunteer at a local shelter, or see if there is some way you could help out there. I would try to think of the things you are interested in, and find out if there are some groups where you could meet other like- minded people.

Good luck. As for me, my family keeps me pretty busy right now! .

Join groups where people do activities you enjoy The best way to make friends is to get involved in group activities. You have fun doing what you like, and you also meet other people who like to do the same kinds of things you do. You're asking on the internet, which can be a really good way to go - just take it a couple of steps further.

Check your local area for couples groups. Some areas have specific groups for couples to go hang out and meet other people. Look on Craigslist, or another local website, for people asking for activity partners - or make your own post and invite people to join you for a hike or to meet for a picnic.

You mentioned enjoying cards and games - join a local bridge group or poker club, or find a quality game store that hosts game nights. There are several game stores in my neighborhood that have board game nights, role playing nights, collectible card game nights, and various other gaming activities you can enjoy. Check out outdoor stores like Any Mountain or REI.

They often have classes and group outings like hikes, bike trips, ski buses, and climbing outings. The trick is just to spend time with other people who enjoy the things you do, and get to know them. Then invite them to do things with you.

If you're especially shy, you might try a public speaking class to help get more comfortable talking to new people. Spend time with fun people, and you'll meet some cool friends.

Making friends Well, to make a new friend, you have to get out of the house--they don’t come to you, as you are well aware. So you need to find things to do where there are others around to meet. My number one suggestion--volunteer!

Whether it be a local build for Habitat for Humanity, a highway cleanup work day, a community event, your local hospital or library--go check it out! Call them up, offer your services. Or, start your own--find a need, and work to fix it.

Others will then come to you to help. Getting actively involved in your own community can be very rewarding in the first place, and you WILL make friends doing so, I’m sure! And people who take the time to help others are generally pretty good people and some might be considered as those who think "outside the box".

Take up golf. I don’t golf, but I hear about it all the time and it sure seems like a major social thing, rather than just a sport! You like swimming, so you might consider a water aerobics or even just lap swim and chat with the others there!

Political events--there is always a need for volunteers, and those volunteers generally work together on projects and get to know each other. Attend your local city functions--whether it be city council meetings or school board meetings, or? You will find lots of thinkers and "do-ers" at meetings like this.

Join a local "club". Whether it be the book club, the Rotary, the Kiwanis, a car club. You will find like minded people there!

Or, people that can expand on your horizons and broaden your interests. My husband is a member of Rotary and it’s really introduced us to a lot of people there. Take a class in something that interests you!

Invite your neighbors over for a meal! Or, organize some kind of wine "event" for the neighborhood. (my neighborhood does fish fries often, and everyone is invited plus those NOT in the neighborhood, too) Spend time in the local coffee shop, and introduce yourself to others there.

Sometimes if I am with my husband when I attend something, I have a tendency to mostly talk to him. If I am on my own, I am more "forced" to talk to others and meet new people--so you might want to consider doing more things on your own to find others to be friends with BOTH of you! Each week read the "community events" part of your newspaper, and try to attend some of them.

Galleries, special events, theater--get yourself out there and you will invariably meet more people. Just a few ideas of things that have worked for us! .

I suggest starting with a local group that plays "sociable strategy" games. Here is a site to start at: SpielFrieks@yahoogroups.com PM me if you need further leads to groups and get-togethers that are local to you. Tomorrow I will post some info about these beyond-Monopoly games in the DiscBrd for thiis Q.

1 Sophie:Kar gives you good suggestions and that's where most people say to start, find others interested in your hobbies and try to connect with them. Its hard though. My ex girlfriend is a lot like you (she's single right now though) and she has tried joining knitting groups etc. and it hasn't worked out for her.

Sometimes these groups can be unreceptive to newcomers...One additional suggestion: Take a class you're interested in at your local community college. Community colleges tend to get a far greater diversity of people than traditional universities do, and you might meet some interesting personalities there.

Sophie:Kar gives you good suggestions and that's where most people say to start, find others interested in your hobbies and try to connect with them. Its hard though. My ex girlfriend is a lot like you (she's single right now though) and she has tried joining knitting groups etc. and it hasn't worked out for her.

Sometimes these groups can be unreceptive to newcomers...One additional suggestion: Take a class you're interested in at your local community college. Community colleges tend to get a far greater diversity of people than traditional universities do, and you might meet some interesting personalities there.

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