Why do many parents think it's bad to spank their children?

I think many people have always had their own ideas about how to raise their children, but kids in the olden days who got spankings were not doing drive by shootings, going to jail, disrespecting their elders. It wasn't until this whole time out thing came about that children went off the deep end. You know what I think about time out is that you are putting your child in a room so they can think about what they did and discover how to do whatever they did better.

I have mixed feelings about spanking. You actually have a very valid point. When we were kids, we did not want to be spanked, so we listened.

Many methods parents use today do not work. I believe the reason for that is inconsistency. In order for punishment to work, the parent must be willing to be consistent.

Every time your child acts up, there must be a consequence. If you decide you are to busy to punish and follow through, the child will figure, well I get away with this usually, so..... The other important factor is the punishment must be just that, "punishment. " Making a kid sit in a chair for 5 minutes is no big deal.

We need to take away what they enjoy most. The problem with spanking is that many parents did hit too hard and if they didn't, we did not fear them. Raising kids can be tough, but my best advice is to be involved, be strict and be consistent.

Yes, I remember, when I was a kid, my mom usually spank me on my buttocks to install discipline. It worked with me as I grew up to be a disciplined child and I remember my lessons which were in related to spanking. However, times have changed and nowadays, spanking is considered not a good way to discipline your child.

Spanking causes low self esteem, lack of parent-child communication and lack of trust. A parent should gain their children's trust in a good way and not instill fear. When kids fear their parents, there is a tendency that they will repeat actions which were the reason of the spanking when parents are not around.

This causes a big gap on the child and parent relationship which we all do not want to happen. Children nowadays are exposed to so much violence through the media, most especially on tv shows and the internet. Even movies have too much violence in them.

Spanking is a form of violence and it is the last thing a parent should do inside the security of their home. It is still best to have an open communication with your children, be a good role model and send them to good schools that teach values before anything else.

The following is my experience: I am the standard 'from an abusive family' scenario. Not all member were in my opinion, but others may disagree: _____________ former stepmother- practiced the 'anything in hands reach' method. There are very few infractions that didn't lead her to believe a spanking was in order.

This includes but is not limited to: extension cords anywhere clothed (no visible marks) a bread board (favored) wire hanger slap to the face lifting off the ground with a hand full of hair most memorable: age 7, being made to walk around the house naked from the waist down to collect (and wash) all dishes. When I walk past one, having one arm yanked up and my ass worn out with a belt. Also age 7, going to school with a purple hand print covering one side of my face.

_____________ father- practiced wrapping his knuckles on the top forward part of my head (didn't cause damage but hurt like hell). Followed each one with asking "Do you know why I did that, son? " Continued with why I had a knot knocked onto my head along with why I shouldn't make that mistake again.

Most memorable: none really. Simply put, when that happened, I usually learned my lesson. So what ever he explained to me was now a rule I followed.

_____________ grandfather- wore my ass once that I remember. I burned down an acre of land. Used his hand.

_____________ mother- practice slapping and insult/humiliation. Most memorable- When I was 4, my mother had gotten this little Siamese kitten. I loved playing with that little tuff of fur and would often imagine what she was saying when it mewwed and, of course, would talk back.

We had to keep her in the house because my father raised bulldogs for fighting. He had even converted this barn on the pasture we lived on into a sort of fighting arena. One day, one of the dogs broke his chain.My mother told me that we had to keep the dog in the house until my father got off work.

So I had to keep the kitten in my room until she got home. My room was through a double door bathroom and neither of the doors closed properly, so a chair was propped against it.As I waited, the kitten would mew. She was lonely.

I repeatedly checked on she and pat her through the cracked door, careful not to let her get out. Then I heard my fathers truck. I got excited that the kitten didn't have to be locked up anymore and just as my mother told me, I had waited until they got home before opening the door.

The dog raced from the kitchen and snapped the kitten up, jerking and... well. You can imagine. My mother heard the cries and raced in followed by my father.

He pried the dogs jaw open with a 'break stick' and released the kitten. I could still hear her mewwing weakly. My father drug the dog out while my mother rested the dying kitten on the towel, educating me on how stupid and ignorant and retarded I was.

I begged to her how sorry I was, but that was met being told how I did it on purpose and I killed her cat and how I'm no good for anything.. I believe my grandfather and father were never abusive to me... my mothers on the other hand- extremely abusive. Pain is a tool for teaching. If the punishment infers a sense of fear in the child of the parent, then it is too much.

I never was afraid of my father or grandfather after they punished me... my mothers made me live in uncertainty. I hardly remember any of the reasons my mothers punished me (minus the most traumatic). And I acted up most around my biological mother, the one that punished me the least physically.

My father was once the pentacle of respect. I tried harder to be good around him because I wanted his approval. I support functional forms of non-insulting, non-injuring physical punishment.

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