Why do women like jerks?

Women don't like jerks; girls do Women who have still not matured like jerks. I used to be one of those. Then, somewhere in my mid 20's, after some bad breakups, I realized that I really liked the nice guys.

I realized that nice guys are way more exciting than the "bad boys". It just takes time and some bad breakups to realize that. Of course, there are some women who never realize that nice guys are the way to go.

These women have very low self esteem and don't get that they deserve better. There's nothing to do about that. If you're in a situation that you feel you are not being appreciated by a woman, then you should probably move on.

And take into consideration that she might never get what she's really losing. The way I see it, keep being a nice guy and be yourself. There are plenty of women out there that will appreciate that..

Sometimes women are driven to help the underdog, be compassionate of the jerks' feelings...we've even been known to think we can change them...They're a challenge for us... Many women have 'low' self esteem and think the 'jerk' is the best she can attract. Could be that the guy who 'appears to be a jerk' in a crowd, is really just self concious and over-compensating...and is as sweet as can be to the lady when it's just the two of them. My neighbor is like that...He is small in stature and comes off as a real jerk...Mr. Macho...making his wife the brunt of his remarks...trying to be the 'big man'... She is the sweetest, most submissive woman.

She says, when it's just the two of them, he is the most wonderful husband on earth. She completely understands his 'jerkiness' and it rolls right off her back. So, everybody's different, who really knows what attracts one person to another...one womans' 'jerk' is another womans' prince.

Go figure.

It is an innate urge to fix things. Women like to fix things, to nurture and comfort and somehow we want to fix these people or we feel sorry for them...or some people take the theory that we are reliving our roles from childhood and one or both of our parents are jerks so it is a role we are comfortable playing but either way it is sort of about fixing things. Usually, most women will realize this at some point when they are more mature and will seek stability with someone more grounded.

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Many Answers 2 This Question** **My first response is the women are immature--and this doesn’t just mean chronologically. I know women who are in their 40’s and above who are constantly choosing this type guy. S hair color and stature may change, but basically he’s a jerk and she’s hooked.

But at whatever age the woman is==it’s immature behavior. And as an adult==they can use their life experience to see their pattern and get help if needed. But girls under 21 or so, or a person’s ’first love,’ HAVE no life experience to make judgements upon.

Many times young women mistake jealousy for caring and controlling for strong. Some women come from households where their dad is their "jerk role model. " You’d think they’d run away quickly from any guy like that==but instead, almost magically, they find jerks also.

One reason, again, is immaturity. Another is that this relationship is very familiar to them. And on the surface the guy may be nothing like her dad.

Maybe her dad is loud and viloent. This guy is quiet and doesn’t seem prone to violence. But as time goes on the varnish will wear off some and she may find him to be emotionally controlling, and verbally abusive.

Another reason may be that they believe that love can change the guy. That’s immaturity again==because a woman knows that ’what she sees, is what she gets. ’ But the girl really believes this guy is misunderstood...she can love him to emotional maturity.

But love can’t do that. Another reason is that the woman doesn’t care enough about herself. Underneath she believes she isn’t good enough and that belief will help her choose a guy who will prove it to her.

She’ll find him and love him. He’ll eventually reject her and THEN==she’ll try harder instead of getting angry, which would be a healthy reaction. What maturity and/or therapy would tell these unfortunate women is that these men have shut down their emotions and they can't FEEL love, so of course they cannot love anyone else.

And most don't even love themselves. It's a lose=lose situation and it can cost both parties dearly. If any man thinks that becoming a jerk will get him more women==he may be partly right.

But they won't be mature, healthy women...the life long partner type. I'd tell him not to let their bad behavior stop his good behavior. And have faith that eventually he'll meet a woman who will appreciate him.

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We don't all like jerks don't worry about those girls, if you are the nice guy you will definitley find a woman who appreciates you and thats who you should really want anyway .

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