Why does it seem the most self-abasing persons also have the best psychic gifts?

No, no one can ever "push" someone to cheat, this is a choice that the cheater makes, no one puts a gun to their head and forces them to do anything. Your husband is not taking any responsibility by pointing to people and situations outside of himself and trying to justify his actions. Cheating can never be justified.

He may have viewed what you did as unfair/wrong, but he in turn chose to do wrong (and, as the saying goes, two wrongs do not make a right). He very well could have made the RIGHT choice and communicated his frustrations with you and tried to resolve this problem as a married couple. If no compromise could be made or if the churchgoing was truly a deal breaker for him, he was free to leave at any time and divorce you.

Cheating is never a solution, it creates problems rather than resolves them. If you believe it will help, get counseling for your marriage.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.