Why doesn't my children spend holidays with me and spend it with others?

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You didn't understand the question. Why does my adult kids tend to go towards father side of the family on holidays. It's been going on for years and they know how I feel about it.

Maybe, it's too late to teach an old dog a new trick. Easygoing 1 day ago .

You probably don't have kids to make a remark like that. Easygoing 4 hours ago .

Actually, I do. But that's irrelevant. Instead of the poor, pitiful me routine, you should just ask what's going on.

Sometimes, when given the choice, kids are going to go with what they want to do, what is more fun for them, rather than what they SHOULD do. Remember that the holiday doesn't have to be ON the holiday. Ask them to visit the weekend before, or the weekend after, maybe.

But try to avoid "guilting" them into visiting with you. That could make the situation even worse.

They don't ever come by just to visit. It has to be a special event. Are you suppose to invite your own kids to come over?

I don't think so. I rather they just come by unannounced whenever they want. I'm not looking forward to mother's day cause I feel their pressured to do something they really don't want to do.

My daughter says, I know she's my mother (me) to her brother. What does that mean. It's just a title?

Easter for me was again hurtful. My son doesn't think nothing of it. My daughter went to her Aunt's house (father's sister) and she tells me, ya should have known I would be there.

In other words I'm second. I utterly hate holidays cause it's very hurtful and if they do come after they have visited the other side. So, when they do come over are tired and full.

They don't eat on my food and I do cook great meals and they know they can take leftovers. Easygoing 1 day ago .

I cannot imagine Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, or Mother's Day without my children with me. Other holidays are different - they may be with me or may have other plans. But they are always with me on those days.

Here's how to get them in on Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter: cook a great meal, and send them home with leftovers. And Christmas? Here's a good rule a friend uses.

Buy gifts for each child and grandchildren. They can pick them up on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day. Not before.......and not after.

Just say, "If you're not in my house at Christmas, I'll assume you don't want your Christmas present". Keep your receipts. And if they don't show up, return the gift for a refund.

When they are younger they may want to be with younger people. Plan something fun ahead of time. You need to bond more with them on other days so when the holiday comes...they feel more connected to you.

Praise them more and do fun things with them more other times...so when they think about you ....they remember the fun times. Invite them all...even friends to your place for fun maybe. Best wishes.

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Thanks all, but my adult children in their forties tend to go towards the fathers side of the family which is a huge family. My family is small. I do cook great meals and thinking it's automatic that you do go to mom's unfortunately table is empty.. If and when they do come over they are full from eating elsewhere and tired and don't eat on my food.

They know how I feel and how it hurts me but this has been going on for years and I try to let it go, but their going to do what they want. I utterly hate holidays even as simple as Easter. My daughter says yesterday, "ya should have known we go to Aunty Carol's" her fathers sister.

I do buy presents and get none back. What's that about. It's like Mother's Day where do you want to go mom.

I hate that question. Why, can't they put their two heads together and plan something. When my mom was alive everything was at her house without an invite.

It's your parents for crying out loud. People in general don't have family views. If they do it's not my side.

Easygoing 1 day ago .

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