Why doesn't receiving physical affection come naturally to me?I dislike receiving affection and yet I am happy to giveit?

I dislike receiving affection and yet I am happy to giveit I am 25 years old I had a ex boyfriend, who is one of the loveliest,sweetest guys . I was fairly easy at giving affection even though Im not a big affectionate person. Yet when he wanted to be affectionate with me, I would push him away and many a times I disliked myself for doing what I did.

I found it difficult to lie there with his arm around me or on my leg becuase it made feel uneasy. Yet I wished it did not feel so difficult or feel uncomfortable and I could just relax. Asked by Daisy86 4 days ago Similar questions: receiving physical affection naturally dislike happy giveit Pets > Dogs.

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It would be of great benefit to you to begin sessions with a counselor or life coach. There are a variety of mental and/or emotional issues that create that type of response to people. Not being able to receive physical affection is something that should really be addressed, as it most likely has to do with an oppressed emotional wounding within you of some type.

You are seeking to protect yourself against the kind of vulnerability that you feel when someone gives you physical affection. That you don't mind 'giving' if leads to the possibility that you have some sort of control issues as well. It would be well worth your while to move through this with a counselor and let that person help you to understand why it is you find being 'subjected' to the physical advances of others unacceptable.

That kind of work just cannot be done here on Askville as the answers will come from deeply personal feelings within you that would take time to process and clarify with a counselor. That you are reaching out for help is indicative of your desire to work through your issues and become free to be and express who you are more fully, so good for you. Best of luck with this.

Please consider that counselor! .

Just get used to receiving any kind of love.

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