Women out there, any suggestions on how to deal with insecure men?

My friend was in a 6 mo relationship and out of the blue he starts showing signs of major jealousy and insecurity. He would go through her phone (without permission) and then gt pissed at her for harmless texts to her guy friends, he said, when they started fighting, that he wants to see other people, well she did and when he found out he got all pissed, he can't have it both ways...she still has feelings but she also knows he's a jerk. Asked by aj0905 56 months ago Similar Questions: Women suggestions deal insecure men Recent Questions About: Women suggestions deal insecure men Lifestyle > Relationships.

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It is his insecurity I'm glad she got away from him. The type of pathological insecurity he shows can lead to violence, stalking and other not so loving things. The fact he went so far as to read her caller id's and text messages signals that potential.

This is NOT reasonable behavior, nor is it simply insecurity. This type of man is responsible for much of the domestic abuse seen by counsellors and shelter managers. It is NOT about love, it is about control, often at any cost.

Your friend needs to make it abundantly clear she's not seeing him again and stick to it. No contact, not for any pretext. If he sends flowers, letters of apology or anything else, she musn't accept them.

Trust me on this. This guy is a jerk alright, but a potentially dangerous jerk. mental-health-today.com/ptsd/ptsdther/16... He demeaned her constantly and did not allow her to have friends or dress in any way he felt was the least bit provocative.

She is very attractive and his jealousy went as far as hiding microphones and hiring private detectives. In addition, he would sometimes send her flowers and then accuse her of having a boyfriend or a lover. Of course, the truth was that she was hardly capable of have any interpersonal relationships because he suppressed her growth in almost every way and she felt inferior to almost everyone she met.

Definition of Othello syndrome Othello syndrome: The delusion of infidelity of a spouse or partner. The Othello syndrome affects males and, less often, females. It is characterized by recurrent accusations of infidelity, searches for evidence, repeated interrogation of the partner, tests of their partner's fidelity, and sometime stalking.

The syndrome may appear by itself or in the course of paranoid schizophrenia, alcoholism, or cocaine addiction. As in Othello, the play by Shakespeare, the syndrome can be highly dangerous and result in disruption of a marriage, homicide and suicide. The Othello syndrome was named by the English psychiatrist John Todd (1914-1987) in a paper he published with K.

Dewhurst entitled "The Othello Syndrome: a study in the psychopathology of sexual jealousy" (Journal of Nervous and Mental Disorder, 1955, 122: 367). Todd was also the first to name the Alice in Wonderland syndrome. The Othello syndrome is also known as delusional jealousy, erotic jealousy syndrome, morbid jealousy, Othello psychosis, or sexual jealousy.

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Your friend needs someone new in her life! Dating should be fun, and it's about getting to know someone else inside and out...and, ultimately to decide if this person is someone with whom you share the same outlook, goals, values, principles, etc., and then if you want to share the rest of your life with that person and grow old together/have a family/etc.. If your friend's boyfriend is showing signs like this after 6 months, it's only going to get worse...he's supposed to be showing his best side right now, so imagine what he's going to be like in another 6 months. Jealousy is an ugly thing, and it's definitely not a character trait to have in a relationship of any kind.

You want to share your life with someone you can trust and whom trusts you in return. There should never ever be a question about that! When you love someone and that someone loves you in return, there is a mutual respect, and you treat each other better than anyone else in this world.

I'm not saying that you won't have arguments or disagreements, because you are ultimately two different people, but you should be a team working toward the same goal. My advice is for your friend to move on and find a guy who doesn't possess the qualities of the one she's with currently, and if she does seem to always attract the same kind of guy, then she needs to do some soul searching and find out why...there are nice guys out there who respect women and treat them well...it's just a matter of finding them. And, always remember, if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it's probably a duck!

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Here's what I think... There are some times where there's truly nothing you can do to take away a guy's jealousy and insecurity. HOWEVER, if you really like the guy and are acting in any way flirtatious or suggestive to other guys, you've got to stop that. I think there are some girls and women who like to see how much their boyfriend likes them, by intentionally making them jealous, and that's just not right.

If your friend knows for certain that she's doing absolutely nothing to encourage her guy to be jealous or insecure, then she's better off getting out of that relationship, in my opinion. That sort of insecurity sounds very hard to overcome fully.

She has it right, he's being a jerk One of the most important things I've learned about relationships is that you can't change the other person. They can change on their own if they want to, but you can't change them. If her man has turned jealous and petty, he's the only one who can decide that he doesn't want to act like a jerk any more.

If she really likes him and wants to make it work, she should talk with him about why he's feeling jealous and figure out what has happened in his life that's changed the way he acts. It's probably complicated, but it might be something they can work out together. In this case, since she's already started dating other people, it seems pretty obvious that she isn't interested in making it work.

Best to cut ties and move on.

I don't think this relationship can work any more.

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