Would redefining marriage to include same-sex coupling affect mating couples' decisions to tie the knot?

Your in-laws are making their personal choices about babysitting, changing plans, and manipulating. It's about THEM NOT ABOUT YOU. If there were plans to do something, and they changed, and I didn't want to participate, I would go home, or else i'd go on with the original plan myself.

You don't have to put yourself into an uncomfortable situation or do things you're not that interested in doing, just because everyone else is doing it! What if they decided to have a picnic in the park, and then suddenly changed their plans to jumping from the Golden Gate Bridge to see if they'd live? I know, a ridiculous example, but you might as well jump from a bridge, if you're going to do something you do not wish to do at the last minute.

Many people play favorites. So what? It's not about you.

As far as your MIL babysitting, she has chosen not to. It's her decision and so let it go. I'm sure your kids are safer on an emotional level being in daycare, considering her attitude toward them, right?

You are making your in-law's rude and ugly behaviors about you. They are not about you. You are an adult woman, obviously.

And your husband really shouldn't be lecturing his mother and sister about their behaviors. I"m sure he knows it's useless, and also that their behaviors have been in place for decades. He probably also realizes they aren't going to change anytime soon, so what's the use?

The issue is between them and you, but it's not really an "issue" at all..... you're making it one, when you can just accept them at face value and move on. Put their behaviors on "ignore". You don't have to cut ties with the in laws all together IF your kids want to spend time with them.

You can make choices about how much time to spend and also how to conduct yourself and how to live your own life. Try that?

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