Would you allow your husband to go on a three night cruise to the Bahamas with his girl best friend and not you?

Going would be OK. Coming back may be a problem.

Well I'm a guy and I would be upset if my wife went to the Bahamas with a guy friend and I wasn't invited,so not jus a no but a big HELL NO! .

If it's just the two of them, then the answer is a resounding No, and nor should he even ask to do so. It may be a completely platonic relationship/friendship, but the appearance of such a vacation, with someone other than his wife, is anything but that.

OF course NO NO NO. Even if not yet married its a NO.

Uh, no, I don't think so. What's the story with this? Is this happening to you?

Yes. S best friend's birthday is coming up in two months. Those tickets were actually supposed to be for the both of us but unfortunately I can't go this year (family issues) and we found out after we paid ~$200 in some fees.

Since I couldn't go, he said he was thinking about taking his girl best friend(who he has known forever) on the trip. I was hurt and against it and explained that I am not comfortable with it. He got angry saying I don't trust him.

I explained that it just isn't appropriate for my husband to go on a cruise with another female. If anything either give both tickets away to her or take a guy with you if you want to go so bad. He said I was being hypocritical because when I found out I can't go this year, I told him to take someone else since he already paid.

He was like no, I can't do that. Now, months later, he says this. I, honestly, did not think he was thinking of a woman to take.So I asked him if he would still go with her even though I was uncomfortable with it?

... He said no. I just don't want to be one of those controlling wives. I truly feel in my heart that I am right about this however a part of my head just doubts if I am being unreasonable.

He has known his best friend for many years. In the beginning, I was uncomfortable around both of them. She calls him boo boo and he talk two-three times a week.

I know I was jealous and I got over it after a while. Now, he brings this up and all the emotions came back. Eloquent 2 months ago .

Wow, I would be upset if I were in your position, too. It's just not an appropriate thing for him to be doing, and disrespectful to you, his wife. Does the "friend" have a boyfriend/husband?

If yes, what does that person think? Everyone is going to assume they are a couple. I would assume they would be sharing a room, if the initial plans were for the two of you to go.

That's just not appropriate. I think you have every right to be FURIOUS with your husband who is suggesting this. Don't let him make you feel like you are simply a jealous wife.

HE is the one being very immature and is disregarding your feelings and the basic "rules" of a relationship.

I will never understand the rationale of people who don't understand that men and women can be friends without anything untoward going on. Have you seriously never had a male friend? I find that sad.It's like you're arbitrarily eliminating half of the world's population from being a potential friend, before even meeting them.

NO WAY ON EARTH. Just no way. It is never appropriate for any married person to go anywhere with someone of the opposite sex UNLESS it is perfectly OK with the spouse(s).

My husband would not even ask me for something like that - he already knows day trips to places I do not want to go along with him and his female friend to, are my limit. Purposely excluding me would never work. Overnight trips?

OUT OF THE QUESTION, don't bother asking me honey. I answered another of your questions just minutes ago - - NOW, I am strongly suggesting you both find a GOOD MFA counselor, and start going right away.

When Harry met Sally he thought Yawza! Not hey lets be BFF! In four languages: No, Nein, Niet, Non!

No....then it is more then best friends...some people marry best friends after awhile. Maybe he wants to move on in life...Let him go and keep going maybe. You want to be with someone who will appreciate you.

Maybe he is narcissistic...charms all women...but may keep moving no to new ones if others leave.

He gets mad at you as if it is YOUR fault...narcissism. Calling that often and cute name is flirting/emotional bonds. Www.

Joy2MeU. Com (great website for codependents) eqi.org/invalid.htm (Shows how people psychologically invalidate others without trying. )narcissismdailymirror.com .

Hell no lol. I love my husband and trust him but if he is asking to take some other girl on a three nigh cruise I would be concerned about his "friendship. " also if you ask questions about it don't forget that at least he told you about it and didn't lie to you and go without you knowing.

Unless it was a big group, you couldn't make it and the tickets were already purchased, HELL NO! .

I wouldn't, and my fiance wouldn't be OK with me going on a 3-day cruise with a really good guy friend. And out of respect for the woman he says he loves, your husband shouldn't go through with it.

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