Would you keep or abort a baby conceived during a traumatizing rape by a brutal, repeat sex offender?
I would abort the baby. Bear in mind, I'm wholly against abortion after having one myself if there are other options, but I do understand that in some instances, such as the one presented in this question, that giving birth to a child who was bore out of such traumatic circumstances is wrong. Rape in and of itself is traumatizing.
Conceiving the child of the violent man who raped you is even worse. Consider the mother: scared, scarred, confused, invaded, forever damaged and now put in the position to raise the child of the man who damaged her in such a demeaning and horrible way. Put in the position of seeing that man every time she looks at that child.
Feeling fear at the very sight of her child because she can't help but remember where that child came from. Now, consider the child: fatherless, not sure why his/her mother seems to cringe at the very sight of him/her, confused, lost, loved but can tell there is something wrong. Kids aren't stupid.
The child would eventually start asking questions. The mother would most like make up some lie about the child's father to save him/her from the brutal truth. One day though, the truth would most likely come out that his/her father brutally beat and raped his/her mother and that was the seed he/she came from.
Imagine the trauma, the pain of knowing and/or not knowing. It is by no stretch of the imagination better to abort a baby that is the product of such violence than it is to bring him/her into this world. The only way that keeping the child would prove decent is if the mother were strong enough and of sound enough mind to handle bringing up that child without holding the child's father against him/her.
If the mother were able to put all of pain aside and love that child and be honest with the child about everything and make the child understand that just because his/her father was horrible and violent that there was no reason for them to be anything like him. It would take major strength and major determination by the mother to succeed in raising that child. Kudos to anyone who has done it or would do it.
I would abort the baby. I am pro-life but I just think that if a baby was conceived out of a horrible crime that the mother would think about that crime everytime she looked at her child. I think that a women should have her baby if it was conceived by consensual sex.
But if she feels that she would not be a good mother I would advise her to try to have the baby adopted by a loving couple as soon as the baby is born.
I would keep the baby. I have had an abortion before and it is something I would never do again, even given the circumstances. To me, the baby would be the beautiful product of a horrible experience.
Being raped is the most traumatic experience a woman can ever experience. It is brutal, robs you of your rights, and dignity as a person. It will make you feel cheated.
A woman who experience this could be deeply scarred physically and emotionally. When I was young I already had thought the "what if" I will be raped. And I said to myself, I'd rather die before someone can do this to me.
I cannot bear the thought of someone abusing me through rape and having his child for that matter. But if someone is successful in raping me and got me pregnant, would I keep the baby? If I was in my 20's I would say, of course not, I'd rather have this child aborted.
But now that I am mature enough, I tried to reflect on this over and over now. It is really hard to make a decision. I tried to immerse myself in that kind of situation and reflect and prayed and the wisdom that I received tells me otherwise.
That no matter how horrible, how scarring, how brutal act was done to me, I have no right in taking an innocent life. The child did not ask to be born into this world and half of that child is part of me. I believe that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.
And I greatly fear m and life is a gift from God. It may be painful to see the child as a living reminder of that traumatic experience but I think this is bearable compared to seeing my face in the mirror everyday, a child-killer. That I think would not give me a peace of mind.
With constant prayers I think I will be able to accept and care for the child eventually no matter how painful that is with the grace of God.
As someone who has survived a most horrifically brutal rape I can wholeheartedly say the best choice I ever made was to keep my beautiful daughter who turns 18 this year its not always been easy and theres been times ive not only doubted my strength to continue but my sanity. The pay off is to see this most amazing child of mine grow into someone who is proud , clever, opinionated and her own person, she is not a rape child she is my daughter and whatever I had to go through to share the highs and lows we have endured together was worth everything. Would a abortion taken away the rape?
No, would adoption of eased my pain? No, but the pride admiration and love I have for MY daughter eases it every day. Its not always been easy and ive made wrong choices but now my daughter knows of her origins and guess what shes still my fiesty , stroppy, funny, clever child shes always been the secret for me is honesty and now there are no secrets and no shame, that night was horrific and will stay with me forever but what outweighs that is my daughter saying mum I love you.So yes I would keep a child concieved out of rape.
I don't think I would keep the child because that child would always remind me of that traumatic experience.
I would abort it for a few reasons: As they say, "blood will tell". I would not want to unleash a baby with that DNA into the world. There is a 50/50 chance that it will turn out just like its father.
I could never raise a child whose father was a violent rapist, because of the same thing. I would always be worried that he would turn out to have violent genes and hurt someone. I would not give it up for adoption for the same reasons.
That rapist had a mother, and she was probably devastated at what he became. Not ever psychopath comes from terrible parents. Look at Ted Bundy.
I could not give a child to parents who are just wanting a baby to love, knowing what it might become.
I would definitely consider the mental state of the person after being raped. People have been able to deal the with fact that their child is the product of a rape and keep the child and love them regardless, they didn't cause the rape. Other people are unable to deal with what they feel is a constant reminder of the rape they experienced.
Abort. I personally see no wrong in abortion at the early stages and yes I have had children. I don't see how bringing a child into this world that you will always look at and see "I was raped" is any crueler than releasing that soul to another vessel.(Yes, I do believe in reincarnation) I also think that while it may sound cold genetics are a consideration here, do you think that brutal sex offenders should breed?
All in all you would end up with a child who was give a bum deal from the start.. no father, bad genetics and a mother who may love it, but will always be reminded of a horrible experience by it. That to me is cruel and an unnecessary addition to our over population.
Abortion is wrong in all circumstances. If you were a victim of a violent crime, don't do the same to your baby. Let it live.
Nine months is not long to carry a child that will have 80 years to develop its own life. Why does no one ever consider adoption? Both of my sons were adopted, and every body is happy.(and alive).
I'd keep it; I'm pro-life. I was recently involved with a film that addresses the issue of abortion.
I would probably have the baby and place it for adoption. That being said, I might find myself bonded with the child and not be able to once the time came. I can not imagine how hard this choice is for people.
I would abort. I did get raped at 14 years old and got pregnant as a result of it. My child is now 23 and if I could do it all over again I would of definately aborted.
Having children may be natural physically but that doesn't mean its easy or something that should be forced on EVERY woman. I forced to go through with the pregnancy as my parents at the time were very religous and even though they have past theres not a day that goes by where I don't look at my son with alot of resentment. Children spoil alot of opportunities and I just wasnt ready mentally due to the rape.My life was already ruined mentally by the rape, but being young I still had alot of opportunities but then the rapists child was born and my life was again ruined physically by the child and I never got those opportunities back.
Yes there are women out there who say having a rape baby was the best thing theyve ever done. But I think that says more about the lack of a life those mothers had before they had their rape babies than having those babies in itself.
Immediate post-rape treatment protocols call for medical professionals to assess the likelihood that a victim will become pregnant in their assessment of the physical damage done to the woman. Protocol calls for gaining a history of the use of contraceptives, as a woman's use of birth control pills or other contraceptives before a rape affect her chance of becoming pregnant. 58 Treatment protocols also call for clinicians to provide access to emergency contraception and counseling on abortion in countries where it is legal.
59 High-dose estrogen pills were tried as an experimental treatment after rape in the 1960s, and in 1972 Canadian physician A. Albert Yuzpe and his colleagues began systematic studies on the use of ethinyl estradiol and dl-norgestrel to provide emergency contraception after an assault. These treatments reduced the rate of pregnancy after rape by 84%.
60 This method is now called the Yuzpe regimen. 61 Before being treated with pregnancy prevention measures, a rape victim is given a HCG pregnancy test to determine whether she was already pregnant before the rape. When being discharged from emergency care, clinicians provide information about pregnancy as well as other complications such as infection and emotional trauma.
62 While a woman who has become pregnant during the past 48 hours will test negative for pregnancy in an HCG pregnancy test (unless she was already pregnant before the rape), pregnancy resulting from the rape can be detected at the two-week follow-up visit. Decisions of whether to end a rape-related pregnancy or carry it to term, and whether to keep the child or give it up for adoption can be severely traumatizing for a woman. 64 Abortion rates for pregnancies due to rape vary significantly by culture and demographics; women who live in countries where abortion is illegal must often give birth to the child or secretly undergo a dangerous, back-alley abortion.
16 Some women do not wish to get abortions for religious or cultural reasons. 65 In a third of cases, rape-related pregnancies are not discovered until the second trimester of pregnancy, which may reduce a woman's options, particularly if she doesn't have easy access to legal abortion or is still recovering from the trauma of the rape itself. In the United States, 1 percent of 1,900 women questioned in 1987 listed rape or incest as the reason for having an abortion; of these, 95 percent named other reasons as well.
67 A 1996 study of thousands of US women showed that, of pregnancies resulting from rape, 50% were aborted, 12% resulted in miscarriage, and 38% were brought to term and either given up for adoption or raised. 12 Peer-reviewed studies have reported from 38% of American women to 90% of Peruvian adolescents carrying the pregnancy to term. 1068 In Lima, Peru, where abortion is illegal, 90% of girls aged 12 to 16 who became pregnant through rape carried the child to term.
68 Of all children born, 1% are put up for adoption; the number of children conceived from rape who are given up for adoption was found to be about 6% in one study and 26% in another. 69 When a mother commits neonaticide, killing an infant younger than 24 hours old, the child's birth being the result of rape is a main cause, although other psychological and situational factors are generally present. 70 Some people turn to drugs or alcohol to cope with emotional trauma after a rape; use of these during pregnancy can harm the fetus.
For a mother who raises a rape-conceived child, both the traumatic effect of the rape and the child's blood relationship to the rapist can create significant psychological problems for both mother and child. 6972 If a woman decides to keep and raise the child, she may have difficulty accepting it, and both mother and child face ostracism in some societies. Mothers may also face legal difficulties.
In most US states, the rapist maintains parental rights. 72 Research by legal scholar Shauna Prewitt indicates that the resulting continued contact with the rapist is damaging for women who keep the child. 72 She wrote in 2012 that in the US, 31 states allow rapists to assert custody and visitation rights over children conceived through rape.
Children whose births result from rape have been killed by their mothers at various times in history; during ancient and medieval times, such infanticide was not prohibited (however penance was expected of these mothers in medieval Europe). In contrast to the modern scientific consensus that rape-induced pregnancies are no less likely than any other, beliefs that rape could not lead to pregnancy were widespread in both legal and medical opinion for centuries. 7475 Galen, an ancient Greek physician, believed that a woman must experience pleasure to release "seed" and become pregnant, and could not derive such pleasure from nonconsensual sex.
The Ancient Greek philosopher Aristotle also believed that female pleasure played a central role in conception. Citation needed Female reproduction was, in many ways, viewed through the lens of male reproductive processes, imagining that female organs functioned as inverted versions of male organs, and hence orgasm was required for conception. Centuries later, in medieval Europe, the belief that pregnancy could not occur without consent was still standard; in fact, conception by a woman was considered a legitimate defense against charges of rape.
75 The belief was codified in the medieval British law texts Fleta74 and Britton. Medieval literary scholar Corinne Saunders acknowledged a difficulty in determining how widely held was the belief that pregnancy implies consent, but concluded that it influenced "at least some justices", citing a 1313 case in Kent.
I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.
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