Would you marry your partner if you knew he/she did not have any desire to ever have children but you definitely wanted offspring?

No, I don't think I would. That is a huge life decision and if you are disagreeing on it before marriage, hoping it will change afterwards is ridiculous! People don't always change their mind and wishing they will after they've already made their wants clear is self defeating.

I have 2 sets of friends who did that very thing... married, one wanting children the other not. One set finally had a child 10 years into the marriage, and the husband blames that child for everything that goes wrong. The resentment is loud and clear.

He tries very hard to act like everything is fine, but he shows his real side more often then not. The second couple are on the verge of divorce... he's taken a job that keeps him out of town for months at a time and she's saving her pennies to move back home and start over. This of course was after he cut her off from sex entirely out of fear that she wasn't going to continue her birth control!

Neither situation is good in my opinion. I believe for a marriage to truly be successful, certain key decisions need to be unanimous! Children are definitely one of those decisions!

I think yes. The point is you should understand how much you care & love you partner. I aim to have a good relationship based on trust and secure the future,The problems can be solved later as happens usually when you see a kid smiling and .. surprise you change your optic,thinking and suddenly you want to have kids,just like that.

Cheers,hope I answered it for you . Good luck.

I personally would still marry the one I loved. You never know maybe after the marriage has gone on for a while and the relationship advances your partner might have a change of mind where this is conserned. People and relationships change so the possiblity of your partner wanting children is not totally out of the question.

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No. Entering into marriage means being ready to start a family.

I love my husband. But at the time that we married, if he did not want children then I would not have married him.

Your question is quite tough and it's hard to choose. Its like between the devil and the deep blue sea. Choosing between what you want and what you love can be difficult.

But first and foremost for me is love. If my boyfriend does not have any desire to have any children at all but I love him very much, I would still continue to go ahead and marry him. My desire takes a back seat in this situation.It doesn't mean I love myself less but for me if I love somebody I want to be with him no matter what our differences would be.

But I will be honest with him that I do want children but I am not putting any pressure on him to change his mind. It is important that he knows what I desire and want. If he loves me and see that I deeply wanted to have a child maybe that can lead him to desire a child for us.

This is just like hoping for the best and expecting the worse. But I think this is the best thing I would do. For love is powerful, it can change a person and it can move mountains.

That is something that you would have to think about as having a child is one of the most important things and most special things in anyones life and if you really want a child and your partner does not that is a big thing to take on, I would not marry them hoping that you will change there mind as this may not happen and if you feel this strong about having a child and they do as well this will wear both you down and you will have major problems and it could be the end of your marraige, you need to sit down and really talk and then make a descion but never ever do something just to keep your partner happy as this will only lead to heartache in the end. Here are a few sites that might help you femalefirst.co.uk/board/post238614.html A forum where other women have there views on the subject another good one for you to look at babycenter.com/4_are-you-ready-for-a-bab....

No I would not marry my partner. I'm going through something like this now with my boyfriend he is in his early forties and he has no children and wants children but I don't. I have a 5 year old daughter and I just don't want anymore children.

Before We got married we went on a 'relationship counseling course'. Not because there was anything wrong with our relationship but because marrage was a big step and we wanted to make sure that we were ready. One of the questions that came up was "did we both want children".

Now it turns out we did. But this is a really important thing to work out before you get married. Otherwise it will draw a wedge between you and your partner.

And if either one of you thinks that you can convince the other later on then you are deluding yourselves. Yes it 'might' happen. But the chances are that you're both going to get hurt.

Talk it through first. And if theirs no agreement one way or the other then its tough but you have to say no. If you say yes then you're setting yourself up for an inevitable breakup and the pain that will cause.

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