You love Christmas and all the traditions with it, but you fall in love with someone that finds no joy in the season, what do you do?

I'm actually in that boat! I joke with him that he's a grinch, and the more he complains, the more Christmas decorations I'm going to put up. Seriously, it's sort of sad for me because I do like Christmas, and someone who wanted to be cheery with me would definitely be more enjoyable.

But, he does not like the holiday for a plethora of reasons: he's not religious and doesn't like the religious themes (I'm not religious either, but my family traditions have never included religion), he hates the consumerism of it, and I think though he doesn't really talk about it, Christmas has some negative memories for him because his family was very poor (we had some slim Christmases too, but I still always enjoyed the season). I just do my thing (tree, cookies, shopping, etc) on my own and with my family, and he sort of stays out of it. He buys me a gift for "winter," as he says, and doesn't really get into it with me.

The bigger issue for us is that he says he is not going to tell his kids about Santa, and has even threatened to tell them the truth if I told our kids about Santa. While these are hypothetical children at this stage, I will need to make it clear to him that he absolutely will not ruin childhood for my children with that kind of behavior, and if he can't agree, frankly, this is not the person I will marry. He can grinch all over my holiday, but not a child's.

I honestly don't try to argue with him too much, because you can't make people like or care about things if they don't want to reconsider. He doesn't want to reconsider. There's just no "magic" in the day for him at all.In the meantime, I try to remind myself that Christmas is one day of the year, and I have other people to enjoy it with.

He is a kind, giving person who treats me really well and is otherwise a good fit for me. I try to not get too wrapped up in one holiday.

I'd first try to find out what's behind it. Just because I have pleasant memories associated with Christmas doesn't mean he does. If celebrating Christmas means dredging up all sorts of painful stuff, he has a legitimate reason.

And even if not, if I fall in love with somebody, I'd hope I would have been drawn to someone with good rationales for things like these. I'd then ask if celebrating another kind of winter holiday, such as Solstice, would be OK. A few traditions are transferrable, after all, at least in my case.

And part of a relationship can involve coming with new ones together.

If you decide to move forward and live with or marry that person, you have to have a serious talk about how you feel. Once you explain how much Christmas means to you and how you love to take part in the traditions, you clarify that there will be no problem in your continuing to do so. If that person loves you, he/she will be glad to make you happy and will say, "Sure, go ahead, and have fun!"

If that person has "no joy in the season", plan a holiday party where you invite family and friends who do enjoy all that is entailed, and have a ball celebrating with them. Try to include your loved one as much as possible so that maybe he/she will realize that Christmas traditions are fun after all!

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