Your spouse just woke up from a 10-year long coma. Would you be able to just pick up where you left off in your life after such a long time?

In order to have gone on, and taken care of myself and my child, I would have had to lose the emotional attachment to my spouse. 10 years is a very long time, and while my love for them would still be there, I am now a different person than I was then. So much could have changed, and with them reentering the world, they too are changed.

They would be venturing into a place they will hardly know. Technology is different, the kids have all grown, the world has different meaning to them than it did before. To expect to go back to the way things were, would be setting yourself up for a failure.

Having lived the last 10 years of your life independent from them would have given you a new outlook, one that can't be erased easily. There would be many roadblocks that we would have to overcome. I love my spouse implicitly, but this would be a very long journey.

I would only hope that we reach that destination together.

I would never do that. I promised to love him in sickness and in health till death do us part. Of course I would be loving him and faithful to him, even if he were in a coma.

That said, he has a living trust that says he doesn't want to linger on in a coma more than a few months. He would rather go home and be with God. Having been married 15 years now, I am not even sure I would want another husband, if my current husband died.

I think I would be happier if I stayed single. Don't get me wrong. I am glad I am married.

I just wouldn't want to go through those first few years again, especially being this much older. Once was enough, for all those adjustements!

He would definitely not be the same man but I wouldn't abandon him. If I stayed by him this whole time, I probably would continue. The brain that has been comatose for 10 years or more would not function on the same level as it did before.It's possible that he would know and understand language but his motor functions and speech would take a long time to return.

In addition, he could act quite immature or infantile because of the brain injury that made him this way. There is a real story of a man that woke up from a coma after like 15 or 20 years. S daughter was just a baby then and now she is an adult.

He can't understand that the woman infront of him is his daughter because his daughter was a baby yesterday. There are many trials that this family has gone through but they all stuck by him. I can't imagine doing any less.

But then again, we really never know what we would do given this situation. Perhaps the stress would be too much or perhaps I would grow as a person.

Our relationship would be completely different since he was the same man 10 years ago when he went into coma and I have changed somewhat during that time. If we had children, they would have grown up. If I were still his wife, I would help him to adjust to his life and put him first because he needed me very much, unless I had to put work first for financial reason.

I would spend more time together with him to catch up for lost time. I expected our relationship would be different and maybe it wouldn't be easy, but I believe if he did woke up, then I had been given a second chance and we should make the most of it.

I can't even fathom separating myself emotionally from my husband. We would certainly have a lot of catching up to do after 10 years, but I simply can't imagine moving on if there was even an ounce of hope that I might get him back. It's beyond comprehension to me.

Heck after 10 years.. I would have gotten use to enjoying life alone. It happens whether we like it or not. It happens in industries (like the oil industry) where one spouce works away from home for 2 weeks.. then returns.. in the mean time the spouce at home has gotten into their own routine and find it difficult to adapt to the other person being home.So to be honest, it would not be easy to pick up where we left off so to speak.

This question is the perfect storm of one of the most terrible things that could happen to a marriage followed by the wonderful miracle of the spouse's recovery, with all the sad and hopeful years between the two. It is almost unimaginable, and it's too complex to say for certain what I'd do unless I actually experienced such a thing, so here is my best guess. I am an intensely loyal person, and I am also the type to remain very close to a limited number of people whom I treasure very much.

I can barely imagine being available enough to get involved with another mate during my husband's coma. Knowing me, I'd probably stay quite buried with work, pets, time with closest friends and family, raising money for the medical bills, etc. , until the very end when my spouse either passed away or woke up and came back to me. I don't necessarily think we'd automatically be able to pick up right where we left off in terms of our relationship, but 10 years is certainly better than 15 or 20, and it is 100% better than death.

I would hope with all my heart that we could get to know each other and move forward together. Either way, he would have my full attention and support during the time of his recovery and adjustment to the changed world around him.My husband and I have been together about half my life already. I feel very strongly about long-term commitments.

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If the husband went into a coma then I would be there for him. I would do what it took to support my children and myself and be there for him. With him waking up in 10 years I think the sheer happiness of that miracle would be enough to gap that 10 year span.

I can't see leaving someone because they are in a coma and moving on while they were there frozen who knows where. So after 10 years I would still be there hoping for his return.

I have a lot of respect for people who would try, but the relationship is going to be drastically different for at least the first little while. This is a really deep question and has more potential complications than I can count. Of course, it also greatly depends on what actually happened in those 10 years too.

If there were kids, those kids are also 10 years older now. That in and of itself would make picking up where you left off impossible.

I would like to think I would be there but at some point you would have to move on with your life. They probably wouldn't want you to waste your life sitting by their bedside waiting. I know if it was me I would want them to move on.It just seems selfish to expect them to wait all those years So, no, if I had moved on I wouldn't be able to just pick up where I left off.

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