How do I cope with my mom? (please help!)?

(please help! ) I swear, 9 out of 10 times, she gets on me and my dad's nerves about cleaning. Even when we DO clean up the house, she's too busy complaining that house is mess, to see the progress we've made.

We can't even sit down for 5 minutes, without her saying "clean this", "clean that", "this is still a mess". Yes, the house is a bit of a mess, but she expects everything to be as neat as a pin. I'm sure even our neighbors or friends live in a house that's semi-messy like ours.

She's always been like this ever since I was born, or even when my older brother was born. She's been like this for so long, that it won't go away, and will constantly annoy people like me. I'm not saying that I'm lazy or I don't care, I'm saying that my mom is driving me nuts with her obsession with cleaning!

Asked by D-2-da-K 33 months ago Similar questions: cope mom help Family > Parenting.

How do I cope with my mom be happy she likes it clean it helps keep sickness to a minumim living in filth is something some people have no choice but to do be glad you don't have to and be glad you have a mother that is a clean freak just tell her its lived in but clean up after yourself too ....oh and tell mom you love her too! Meat Sources: my mom .

1 The problem here is probably that your mom is a neat person and you probably aren't so much.... and it is compounded by the fact that you are male and a kid (no offense, I am old enough now even college kids are kids to me). Everyone has their own standards of clean, obviously yours don't mesh with your moms. Most kid's don't... some never do.

Some neat freaks do it solely for germs, some do it for appearances, some do it because they are OCD, some do it because they just can't think straight unless things are orderly around them (like me). I am sure there are other reasons too. My husband is your typical male and considers clean to mean nothing is on the floor.

This means when cleaning I end up being like your mom and constantly ordering him around. Somehow after all these years he still won't actually clean behind or under things unless I am standing over his shoulder. We just have a different standard of what clean is.

Men also aren't as attentive to detail as women, which may be a part of it. He can "clean" something and then I will go behind and have to clean it again... he will only see the mess he left if I point out all the things left undone! This means that I have to take on a bossy role when cleaning or nothing actually gets done.At least he has resigned himself to that fact... and he knows he won't clean to my standards unless he just awaits orders when it is time to clean up.

The problem here is probably that your mom is a neat person and you probably aren't so much.... and it is compounded by the fact that you are male and a kid (no offense, I am old enough now even college kids are kids to me). Everyone has their own standards of clean, obviously yours don't mesh with your moms. Most kid's don't... some never do.

Some neat freaks do it solely for germs, some do it for appearances, some do it because they are OCD, some do it because they just can't think straight unless things are orderly around them (like me). I am sure there are other reasons too. My husband is your typical male and considers clean to mean nothing is on the floor.

This means when cleaning I end up being like your mom and constantly ordering him around. Somehow after all these years he still won't actually clean behind or under things unless I am standing over his shoulder. We just have a different standard of what clean is.

Men also aren't as attentive to detail as women, which may be a part of it. He can "clean" something and then I will go behind and have to clean it again... he will only see the mess he left if I point out all the things left undone! This means that I have to take on a bossy role when cleaning or nothing actually gets done.At least he has resigned himself to that fact... and he knows he won't clean to my standards unless he just awaits orders when it is time to clean up.

2 So I guess what I am saying is to cope you just have to do as she says and just try to do a great job so you don't have to do it again. Try to think like she does and take care of things before she spots them, and clean messes immediately. Heh, that is how I dealt with cleaning when I was a kid!

I hated it then too.

So I guess what I am saying is to cope you just have to do as she says and just try to do a great job so you don't have to do it again. Try to think like she does and take care of things before she spots them, and clean messes immediately. Heh, that is how I dealt with cleaning when I was a kid!

I hated it then too.

3 Suggestion: sit down as a whole family and make some kind of cleaning schedule. If she sees you are trying to cooperate she will most likely settle down a little. Pick up after yourselves and take responsibility for your own laundry and keep it up.

Good habits should be developed by all of you -- they will last a lifetime. Can your Mom walk into a clean kitchen? My husband takes responsibility for keeping the kitchen clean (yes, he's an angel and I know it!) and it is my joy to be able to walk in to a clean kitchen at any time and cook or bake.

It's an incredible gift and he knows I am totally grateful for it -- especially when my high energy time is in the a.m. And his is p.m. -- he has the energy to do the dinner dishes when I am pretty much folding up into a semi-conscious heap on the couch.

If you can work together as a family, that would be really good. When you have that family meeting, say VERY NICELY AND QUIETLY to your Mom that it is really hard to hear the complaining all the time no matter how hard you try. Then offer to make a chart that she will be happy with.

Find out, as well, what makes her the most irritated and put that as a priority item for all of you to try to keep clean. Teamwork is great. I'm sure you can do it.

Suggestion: sit down as a whole family and make some kind of cleaning schedule. If she sees you are trying to cooperate she will most likely settle down a little. Pick up after yourselves and take responsibility for your own laundry and keep it up.

Good habits should be developed by all of you -- they will last a lifetime. Can your Mom walk into a clean kitchen? My husband takes responsibility for keeping the kitchen clean (yes, he's an angel and I know it!) and it is my joy to be able to walk in to a clean kitchen at any time and cook or bake.

It's an incredible gift and he knows I am totally grateful for it -- especially when my high energy time is in the a.m. And his is p.m. -- he has the energy to do the dinner dishes when I am pretty much folding up into a semi-conscious heap on the couch.

If you can work together as a family, that would be really good. When you have that family meeting, say VERY NICELY AND QUIETLY to your Mom that it is really hard to hear the complaining all the time no matter how hard you try. Then offer to make a chart that she will be happy with.

Find out, as well, what makes her the most irritated and put that as a priority item for all of you to try to keep clean. Teamwork is great. I'm sure you can do it.

Adsgfdgadf replied to post #3: 4 That's a great suggestion--I was thinking along those same lines! .

That's a great suggestion--I was thinking along those same lines!

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