How do I explain to my daughter (10) why I do not like her watching music videos with women just being seductive and?

I want her to have a healthy outlook regarding sex and about being a woman, but these videos portray women as sexy tigers, licking their fingers and doing backward cha-cha-cha moves that are explicitly related to sex. She loves to sing and likes to watch YouTube (not allowed without me there), but they see these portrayals everywhere. I am sick of this skewed portrayal that women have to be gorgeous, thin and act like all they want is sex.

What do you think? Yeah, I am pretty irritated, if you haven't noticed! Asked by garbanzita 26 months ago Similar questions: explain daughter 10 watching music videos women seductive Lifestyle > Sexuality.

Similar questions: explain daughter 10 watching music videos women seductive.

I would tell her that there is a certain kind of lady you want her to grow up to be and that these women are NOT it! Tell her that TV and movies don't show the aftereffects of what happens when women are loose little sex toys because that isn't the "glamorous" side that Hollywood wants to portray. Explain to her what REALLY happens to most women who act like this in the real world and that you love her too much to let her copy their behavior (and she WILL copy it one day if she's exposed to it while she's growing up).

I'm irritated too because I'm sick of movie makers, TV producers, etc. Subjecting our children to these kinds of portrayals of women that are completely out of touch with reality. It's all about selling products and sex at the expense of our precious children's innocence. Maybe you can find some role models for her to look up to that are REAL women, like yourself and any other women you know who are a great example of what a woman should be!

Hope this is of some help to you! Keep doing what's right no matter what direction the world wants to take!.

I agree with you, it is inappropriate for a girl her age and you need to explain to her that what she sees in the media is not the way women are in real life. It is just entertainment to sell records, movies and so. And that you can be a singer, like the Osmonds for example, without the raunch.It also gives MEN a false impression of women, with disastrous results, as 'date rapes' show.

A woman has to be valued for her mind, heart and professionalism, not just her looks or allure. I don't envy you being a parent of a girl that age! Things were much simpler when we were younger.

Good luck.

I understand your irritation, and would certainly limit and monitor music videos... the way you do Youtube. In fact, I may even eliminate music videos altogether, opting for a CD instead. Of course, she'll probably have a fit and fall right in it, over the absence of music videos.

But I would explain to her(even at ten)exactly the way you explained to all of us, why it's not good to see women behaving as seductresses. Women have a lot more in life to offer than just sex. This is the perfect age for your daughter to understand it, too..

Read Genesis 3 to her. Adam and Eve have it good and suddenly Eve is trying to take over .. And Adam is letting her. God steps in and curses both.

Eve's curse is, "Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee" (Genesis 3:16). This means that while she will try to control men, she will always fail at it. Merely explain to your daughter that is what the women in the videos are trying to do, what she herself is trying to do, and it never works.

On the other hand, if one refuses to play that game and goes and does one's own thing whether or not the boys approve, one finds success.

1 I had been fighting a losing battle with my 4-year-old daughter over Barbie. I don't think an anorexic bleach blonde is a positive role model for young girls, but my wife and almost everyone I talk to tells me that trying to shield her from Barbie is like trying to shield her from air. It's just become too pervasive.

She is also in preschool and exposed to lots of other little kids. I can't shelter her from everything. When she goes off to elementary school, it's going to be less so, and I don't even want to think about URL1 made me cringe just to type that.

I'll put my foot down when she wants tats or strange piercings. She will not have a computer in her room or a PDA phone. But the best thing I can do is provide positive reinforcement for her.

I'm not the kind of dad who leers at the cheerleaders watching football games on TV. I'll let that be her guide.

I had been fighting a losing battle with my 4-year-old daughter over Barbie. I don't think an anorexic bleach blonde is a positive role model for young girls, but my wife and almost everyone I talk to tells me that trying to shield her from Barbie is like trying to shield her from air. It's just become too pervasive.

She is also in preschool and exposed to lots of other little kids. I can't shelter her from everything. When she goes off to elementary school, it's going to be less so, and I don't even want to think about URL1 made me cringe just to type that.

I'll put my foot down when she wants tats or strange piercings. She will not have a computer in her room or a PDA phone. But the best thing I can do is provide positive reinforcement for her.

I'm not the kind of dad who leers at the cheerleaders watching football games on TV. I'll let that be her guide.

What is this thing with Second Life... someone please explain what it is so seductive...

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.