How do I overcome my resentment I feel towards my white dad and asian mom, when my very birth is a evil defeat?

Well I hope you learn to love your identity and not give it much second thought. I know its hard because of the way people may perceive you due to your mixed heritage. Just yesterday I watched a comedian on comedy central called Steve Bryne half Irish half korean.

He was incredibly hot and a hilarious guy, and I didn't see him as an asian or white. I couldnt get past his hot looks. My dad is from india, my mom is pakistani, even though both are similar races, I deal with alot of crap from indian people.

Im completely looked over like I don't exist. I deal with it, but I don't analyze it too much. My best friend is half white and half pakistani.

She is very very pretty. I think most mixed children are. She relates more to her pakistani side than her american side, even though she is very all american girl from the outside, but totally brown from the inside.

I don't see her as a typical pakistani girl. I think you need to create your own identity and be proud of who you are. If you don't know your asian language or your folks from the mother land, get to know your language and look up relatives using facebook, etc... I actually didn't know any of my indian side of the family at ALL...i asked my dad to call or introduce me.

He placed some calls, and found out I have cousins my age working great jobs, are married, and good people. Us cousins email alot, and hope to have a reunion in India in 2012. Good luck to you.

Don't overthink it. Also, I do have to be honest with you, I did marry a white guy but I married him because he was my college sweetheart stuck with me through thick and thin (surgeries, money and career struggles, etc). I tried very hard to fit into my indian or pakistani and date guys, just most didn't like me for whatever reason.

It is my fate to marry who loved me, not based on race. I would choose my husband even if he was my race or not. I married him because we loved each other regardless of race.

I hope to raise my children to love their mixed heritage. I have seen many success stories. I hope you find your match someday and be happy to have best of both worlds.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.