How many marriages survive a wife cheating a second time with the same guy?

Only you can know if it is worth fighting for. All relationships take work to stay together. Both of you will need to put in, it will just be a matter of if you both are willing and wanting to.

I wish you the best in whatever you choose!

Thanks for answering, I do still love her, yet also have so much ... loathing... towards her. Respect and trust are not 'back' yet as they were a few years after her first affair... I felt that I was just as guilty==it helped anyways back then. But I am not sure one day to the next if I want to still be with her.

We have three adult children and a 5 yr old... plus I am afraid of being alone. I see her and can still get 'butterflies'.... as long as the memories of what she did do not creep into my mind... its torture!

Only you and she will know, .. but it seems there is somthing missing in your relationship, otherwise she would not be talking, seeing someone else, nor would you have. Listen to her, that maybe all she needs, it maybe what you need. Ask her what her needs are.. yes, you've been together a long time, you know eachother, but people change as the years go by.

Ask how she has changed, and what the years may bring to the table. All the best, and thank you for protecting us and our country.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.