How to deal with an immature, insecure, cruel coworker?

Well the fact that she is acting nice to your face shows that she will squirm when confronted. She wants to dislike you but not be open about it because she doesn't know how to handle conflict. My personal opinion is that she is jealous of you, there is no other reason why people don't like other especially this girl who is acting like a teeny bopper.

There are millions of reasons to dislike someone whether it be something they do or a way they act, but the professional person would still be professional at work, but make no effort to be friends otherwise and not go around talking about someone when they aren't around. She's immature and needs to grow up. My gut instinct is to say something to her and watch her squirm, but I know that isn't the right thing to do.

My husband has friends that he's been friends with since he was a kid and they are all grown and married now and one of the guys wives doesn't like me. She's never come out and said it, but I can tell by the way she treats me. I never received their rsvp card for our wedding.

I finally said something to my MIL who is best friends with her MIL and so she asked them about it. She said she sent it, but I don't believe her. She also walks right by me at gatherings and doesn't say a word and then later on once she starts a conversation with my husband says oh hey, I didn't see you there.

This girl and her husband told me last week they were coming to my birthday party and even called the day of to ask for directions. They never showed up at the party. I saw them yesterday at another birthday party and she gave me a lame excuse, I was pleasant as can be and just said oh it's fine, we had a lot of fun, blah, blah.

But she was actually nicer to me yesterday than she's ever been and actually had a full on conversation with me. I've never talked to her that much in my life. It seems like since I've had a kid she likes me a little better, but I guess maybe it's just because we now have that in common, I don't know.

But it's so immature and high school drama like you said. And what's worse is she is 30 years old. It never gets better for some.

I would just not say anything unless she brings up pictures to you again. If she does, just kindly say I sent you a friend request but I guess you didn't get it.

I've been in similar situations. It always seems when I have a way to get the "upper hand', it backfires LOL! I honestly would leave it alone.

If she doesn't want to be your friend on Facebook, it's probably because she's talking smack about you there. She's two-faced and does things for attention. She also sounds petty and insecure to be playing both sides.

=) Just keep killing her with kindness. Everything will one day get to her, and you knowing you always took the high ground will work in your favor! Good luck hun!

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