I am planning my wedding and having trouble deciding if a certain friend should be a bridesmaid?

I am planning my wedding and having trouble deciding if a certain friend should be a bridesmaid..... We were best friends for about two years and I even went on vacation with her entire family. Also- her mother and my fiance's mother are best friends. Their families have been friends forever and she grew up with my fiance.

However, about a year ago, we had a huge fight and we didn't speak for months... we finally talked about it but it's not the same. While we talk a little when we see each other out in public, we never hang out anymore and are nothing like the best friends we used to be. The fight changed our friendship drastically.

She recently got married and didn't ask me to be a bridesmaid. I was so hurt. Now, I can't decide if I should ask her to be a bridesmaid in my own wedding.

Should I- put aside my resentment and ask her? Or- not ask her since I wasn't in hers and we aren't as close as we used to be? Asked by bellapoo 16 months ago Similar questions: planning wedding trouble deciding friend bridesmaid Lifestyle > Weddings.

Similar questions: planning wedding trouble deciding friend bridesmaid.

Trust, but verify. It would be very generous of you to extend forgiveness, but you need to have a heart-to-heart ... ... with her beforehand, so as to become comfortable about her not harboring so much resentment that she would introduce negative vibes into your wedding ceremony. You don't want to go through this already stressful day feeling nervous about *that*, too.

Here’s a chance for you to occupy the moral high ground, but it’s risky. Remember, forgiveness will make *you* feel better and will make all the families involved happier. You would do well to unburden yourself about your dilemma to your fiance, without sugarcoating or whitewashing your part in the break, and make sure that he buys into the decision, whichever way it goes.

Cearly, you feel closer to some other female friend, so *this* woman can't be your matron of honor, but how blatant will it be if you include as bridesmaids friends with whom you have a far shorter history, but not her? Lots of issues to chew on here. I hope that it all works out well for you, however you decide..

Bridesmaids Since you say that you aren't close anymore, I think you already have your answer. Whether she asked you to be in her wedding is immaterial. This is not tit for tat.

You should never ask someone to be part of your wedding if you are already feeling resentment towards them as no good will come out of it. Besides, she will feel awkward if you do ask and may want to decline, but might not know how to do so. Relationships change over time, and you shouldn't feel that you have to ask her just because you used to be good friends.

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Absolutely not..... When in doubt, leave it out! You are better off not including anyone that could cause potential problems. She moved on and you are not considered a top friend either.

Both of you having a huge fight convinces me that another fight could be quite possible. As you grow older, a level of respect torwards your friends and vice versa should be in place. Huge fights do not happen.

If you do not see eye to eye look for other friends that are more similar to your way of thinking. That is called maturity. Your wedding day is a day where you will be plenty nervous wanting everything to be perfect.

Chose only bridesmaids that will be supportive and complement your day. Best of luck.

1 Put your resentment aside, and don't ask her. Your being hurt because she didn't ask you to be part of her wedding party is your problem, not hers. I suspect that she doesn't expect to be part of your wedding party, and I feel that it was unrealistic of you to expect to be in hers, especially considering the state of your friendship (or lack thereof) now.

If you would like her to be at your wedding, I suggest simply sending her an invitation to attend, just like you will with your other guests.

Put your resentment aside, and don't ask her. Your being hurt because she didn't ask you to be part of her wedding party is your problem, not hers. I suspect that she doesn't expect to be part of your wedding party, and I feel that it was unrealistic of you to expect to be in hers, especially considering the state of your friendship (or lack thereof) now.

If you would like her to be at your wedding, I suggest simply sending her an invitation to attend, just like you will with your other guests.

2 You don't have to worry. Just ask her and see what happens. You won't have to decide.

Forgiveness is better than resentments that hurt people's health.

You don't have to worry. Just ask her and see what happens. You won't have to decide.

Forgiveness is better than resentments that hurt people's health.

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