I have a 4-month old son. His Dad lied about being married. He is now w/his wife and wants our son every other weekend?

I have a 4-month old son. His Dad lied about being married. He is now w/his wife and wants our son every other weekend We met March this year, I was pregnant by May.

I was in love and looking forward to our son's birth. He told me that he was in the midst of a divorce & could not wait to marry me and start our family. As time went by - no word of a divorce.

I began to question him. He then said he had lied-he had not filed yet - but now he had. Again, a few months go by with no word.

I catch him in many lies and he never seems to be available after work hours to talk - he only texts. I confront him. Once again he states that it is complicated she is trying to take him for everything.

He continues to profess his undying love for me and begs me not to leave him-he will divorce and we will be a family. January - I ask him to handle it before our son is born in February. He does not.

Feb 6th our son is born. His father see's him a couple times. Mid March he tells me he and his wife are back together.

May -he says she moved back in and he wants our son every other weekend? Why should I? Asked by NickNocksMom 46 months ago Similar Questions: 4 month son Dad lied married wife weekend Recent Questions About: 4 month son Dad lied married wife weekend Family > Parenting.

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If you use a child as a playing chip between parents, it hurts the child Of course you are angry. This guy lied to you and mislead you, and played with your emotions. He promised you a family and love, and then took it back.

You probably don't feel like you have any power with him. You may still want him to be with you, and he clearly doesn't want to be with you. This could mean he was taking advantage of you, and just using you for sex, or it could mean that he was indeed uncertain of what he wanted, and he behaved irresponsibly, and now you are left being a single mother.

You two have now created a child. You both played a part in creating this child. The child did nothing wrong in coming to life.

The child deserves as good an upbringing as he can have. The child deserves love from both his parents. The child deserves care from both his parents.

He won't feel that love, if he never sees one of his parents. This will damage him. He will wonder why his Father abandoned him.

God forbid he should ever find out you are the one who kept his Father away. He will take it out on you, and become very angry with you. The problems between you and your son's father are best sorted out by you two, believe.

If you use your son as a bargaining chip to express your anger towards his father, your son will suffer, and you will suffer. Hard as it may be, if you admit that you made a mistake, and now you want to try to move forward and take care of your son in the best way you can, you will probably be better off. Be kind.

It's hard, I know, but it will help more in the long run. If you are kind to your ex-lover, then perhaps he will be a better father to your son, and maybe he will even start helping with child support, if he is not doing that already. However, you should not expect child support.

You may have to take him to court for that. I believe you should be prepared to raise your son without his financial help. Please, also make sure your son has as much time with his father as possible.

If you cut off his father, his father may lose interest, and this can only be bad for your son. People lie. People cheat.

People want more than society allows them to have. We can only try to forgive other's mistakes as we try to forgive our own, and we can resolve to be kind to our children, who are innocent, and do not deserve to be used as weapons of anger.

You should let him see his son because it is the right thing to do for your son. You do not want your boy to grow up and resent you for keeping him from his dad. But get everything on paper, you already know you can't trust the father.

Get it spelled out, when, where, and how much child support he is going to give you. I cannot stress this enough "get it on paper", to avoid any problems that might arise in the future. If you can't afford a lawyer, your local DSS or child services offers asssistance.

And forget that man, no matter what he tells you, he's a liar and a cheat. You do not want someone like that in your life. Sources: This is my opinion .

Separate the Issues Your son's right to have access to his father is totally separate from how badly this man treated you. Your son also has a right to receive child support from his father and that is usually attached to visitation. There's a baby is the picture now, what's best for him needs to take precedence over everything else - even your (understandably) hurt feelings.

Being a single mom is hard enough. Please don't let this guy suck any more of your precious energy by staying stuck and living in anger.

The father has the right to see his son, regardless of what kind of a weasel he is. You have the right to Child Support, regardless of what kind of income you make. Sue for support, come to a visitation agreement, and tell him you will not sleep with him again, but wish to remain friendly in order to make life for your son easier.

Then try to do that. My rule, Lie to me once, good bye. I don't understand how you can stay with and try to marry a proven lier.

Sure, you love him, but he cheated on his wife with you. As soon as you are married and the bloom is off of the rose, you can bet he is going to cheat on you. You are better off without him.

Now, go find a lawyer, file a claim of paternity with the court and get some of what you deserve. In the end, you are legally entitled to the support and he is legally entitled to visitation. Grin and live with it.

BTW, Never say anything bad about him, and never let him get away with saying anything bad about you to your son.

The only reason would be if you want to What a nasty situation, with you being in love and a new mom, getting treated so shabbily. Congratulations on the birth of your son, which is great whatever else happens. If you want your son to grow up knowing his father, then you can agree to allow visits.

It sounds to me like he is just a liar and manipulator, but I have never met the man, so you'll have to be the judge of how important this is to you, and whether it is a good idea. If you don't want your son to visit his father, I don't see any reason why you should allow it. You should get a lawyer to help you get child support money, if you haven't already.

The lawyer will also be able to advise you about the father's rights with respect to visiting with your son. Please decide based on what works for you, not the father. And remember that children who grow up knowing only one biological parent turn out just fine.

So do children who grow up traveling between parents. Your decision will not ruin your son's life, however you make it.

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