I have really screwed up the love of my life and I want to get her back but I have cheated and lied to her?

I have really screwed up the love of my life and I want to get her back but I have cheated and lied to her. She is my best friend. I would rather live without anyone if I can not be with her.

I have horrible communication problems and just started going to counseling. I plan to bring her with me. I have never loved any more then I love her.

I just want to know what I can do if its possible to make it work this time. I know what I want and I know its her. Asked by toolhandle 25 months ago Similar Questions: screwed love life back cheated lied Recent Questions About: screwed love life back cheated lied Lifestyle > Relationships.

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I'm not that person anymore. Tell yourself that. Not to keep her, but because you have grown away from that horrible behavour.

Be sorry for it. You should be, not to just keep her, but because you hurt someone you love and probably others too. I am not preaching to you, just sharing my heart and wisdom God have developed in me so far.

I pray that it helps you, dear. You want her back. Do you have faith in Jesus?

Pray for Him to hear your heart's cry. Be the type of man that's good for a woman. Be strong, yet gentle, not just crazy to get her back.

You have to be the person you are and who sees a better way to be. Don't be pushed around, but do what is best for your relationship, like this counseling, hopefully. Learn what you can to be able to communicate.

You may not be too different in the end on the skills test. Don't fret! My husband is quiet because he's not a fast thinker, impulsive or hasn't the communicative skills some are just born with.

When he argues, it sounds awful! When I figure out how he feels about something, sometimes, I'm aggravated he couldn't tell me sooner. I would love for him to communicate a lot better, but I KNOW him.

I know he's honorable and kind. He loves me and that is enough 98% of the time. It's okay to not always be the perfect communicator.

I hope your lady knows you enough to not expect what she really can't have from you. When she forgives you and your relationship recovers, will she love you how you really are? Then, you have to ask yourself if she is right for you.

You can still love her and let her go. You have to see you were made the way you are for God's reasons, reasons you may not know why for yet. Get rid of 'that other person you are not' now and discover the best you and then offer the best you are to her.

That will be more precious than any desparate plea with no foundation to live on once this is past. Have faith. You have to live through this to be a better person and it is worth it!

She may see that too. The best we can be is always better when we love as Jesus loved us; first and while we were sinners.

Well, telling her just what you said is a good start. Also, apologize for the past and tell her it won't happen again, that now you are sure that she's the one and you will prove it to her. The counseling is a good idea and I commend you for it; it shows you are making a serious effort.

Her trust has been shaken and it will take more than words for her to believe in you again. But, if she loves you, and you prove that you are sincere, I'm sure she will give you another chance.

I hope she moves on............ You did enough damage and you were dishonest and disloyal. You will do it again and she will hate herself for giving you a second chance. Maybe you are better off being alone so you are not damaging any relationship.

Honesty and loyalty is something you are raised with. It is ingrained by the parents. A man that cheated and lied had gotten away with it many times and he will be tempted again.

Too hard to say No! To yourself. Unfortunately.

Sources: Seen it happen time and time again .

What you would need to do is change. The problem is the doing of that. Humans cannot change themselves.

They can change their behavior, but that lasts only so long. The reason you cheated and lied to your "love of your life" is that your own character wants to have more than your hands are able to hold. Fair enough; many humans are like that, and if you weren't, you'd have people telling you that you're a boring old fuddy duddy.

Really, do you want the love of your life or the esteem of others? I could have been many other things but I decided I wanted to be with my wife, which has NATURALLY meant not having other things. So, having decided which you want to keep and which you want to lose, get to work on losing those useless things and spending some years being different and reliable and honest: "In whose eyes a vile person is contemned; but he honoureth them that fear the LORD.

He that sweareth to his own hurt, and changeth not" (Psalm 15:4). It's going to hurt, and it's going to cost you. The beauty of "love of your life" is expensive, but it's still more beautiful than all those things you spend to get there.

The Holy Spirit is the only way to really change a personality. Ask Him to do this for you, thru Jesus Christ and His atonement for your sins on His cross.

1 If you love her as much as you are now claiming, you wouldn't have cheated on her. Did you think it would be ok because you wouldn't get caught? Surprise!

You don't deserve her. I hope she finds someone worthy of her.

If you love her as much as you are now claiming, you wouldn't have cheated on her. Did you think it would be ok because you wouldn't get caught? Surprise!

You don't deserve her. I hope she finds someone worthy of her.

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Bymy boyfriend has cheated on me and lied to me for years he promised to change when I ask him questions he gets mad why.

I lost the love of my life and I wanna get her back.

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