If you found out that your friend's partner is cheating, would you tell your friend?

From past experiences and other people’s stories, I have come to understand that it depends on the kind of relationship you have with that person. My best friend’s fiancé cheated on her few weeks before their planned wedding. I caught him in the act and took a good picture with my phone.

My friend had been telling me that she had doubts about his fidelity and feel that he might be cheating on her. I gave it a good thought before deciding to show her the prove on my phone. She was devastated at the reality, even though she had suspected it.

She printed out the pictures and showed them to him. The wedding was called off and they both got married to other people years later. My friend cannot thank me enough for not hiding the truth from her and for saving her from such a man.

We heard that he has been married twice and divorced, all for infidelity. I must admit that if I and my best friend were not like sisters, I would not have told her. Sometimes it is better to let them find out for themselves and if you must tell them, do it indirectly or as an anonymous caller.

From past experiences and other people’s stories, I have come to understand that it depends on the kind of relationship you have with that person. My best friend’s fiancé cheated on her few weeks before their planned wedding. I caught him in the act and took a good picture with my phone.

My friend had been telling me that she had doubts about his fidelity and feel that he might be cheating on her. I gave it a good thought before deciding to show her the prove on my phone. She was devastated at the reality, even though she had suspected it.

She printed out the pictures and showed them to him. The wedding was called off and they both got married to other people years later. My friend cannot thank me enough for not hiding the truth from her and for saving her from such a man.

We heard that he has been married twice and divorced, all for infidelity. I must admit that if I and my best friend were not like sisters, I would not have told her. Sometimes it is better to let them find out for themselves and if you must tell them, do it indirectly or as an anonymous caller.

You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars. If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question. I would not mention anything to my friend unless she asked me directly.

Of course, I would let her know that I had no intention of getting involved in her personal business and that I meant her no harm by withholding this information. I simply did not want to risk her disbelieving and turning on me for relaying this unpleasant information to her. Then I would slowly and carefully fill her in on the details that I am aware of and help her cope with this information in any way that I could.

Learning about an act of indiscretion from another person can be a very painful experience for somebody and completely destroys any amount of trust still present for the cheating partner. Relaying any such information must be handled very tactfully, if you choose to do so at all. Reality is, though, that you as the outsider never know 100% for certain what happened precisely between the boyfriend and the other girl.

Unless you have steadfast evidence of the events, what you think you know might just be rumors or suggestive occurrences that bear no truth. To avoid the risk of making a fool of myself, I would stress that I could provide only the information that I know to be true without repeating what I heard from second or third hand. I would not mention anything to my friend unless she asked me directly.

Of course, I would let her know that I had no intention of getting involved in her personal business and that I meant her no harm by withholding this information. I simply did not want to risk her disbelieving and turning on me for relaying this unpleasant information to her. Then I would slowly and carefully fill her in on the details that I am aware of and help her cope with this information in any way that I could.

Learning about an act of indiscretion from another person can be a very painful experience for somebody and completely destroys any amount of trust still present for the cheating partner. Relaying any such information must be handled very tactfully, if you choose to do so at all. Reality is, though, that you as the outsider never know 100% for certain what happened precisely between the boyfriend and the other girl.

Unless you have steadfast evidence of the events, what you think you know might just be rumors or suggestive occurrences that bear no truth. To avoid the risk of making a fool of myself, I would stress that I could provide only the information that I know to be true without repeating what I heard from second or third hand. You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars.

If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question. Yes I would absolutely tell my friend. There is simply no way I would know something like that and not tell my friend about what was going on.

I look at it this way, no matter how painful it might be to hear something like that I would want to know immediately if my partner was cheating on me. Better to hear that sort of thing from a friend, then to find out and only later realize your friend knew and didn’t choose to tell me. I know that some people choose to live without the knowledge of truly terrible things, but it is just not how I could live my life.

I think that all my friends feel the same way. They would want to know so they could deal with it. How they deal with it is up to them, but they would want to know.

Yes I would absolutely tell my friend. There is simply no way I would know something like that and not tell my friend about what was going on. I look at it this way, no matter how painful it might be to hear something like that I would want to know immediately if my partner was cheating on me.

Better to hear that sort of thing from a friend, then to find out and only later realize your friend knew and didn’t choose to tell me. I know that some people choose to live without the knowledge of truly terrible things, but it is just not how I could live my life. I think that all my friends feel the same way.

They would want to know so they could deal with it. How they deal with it is up to them, but they would want to know. You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars.

If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question. Uh yeah, absolutely! I have been cheated on many times, my then friends knew, the mother of the guy I was with even know, and no one told me because he was happy, who cares if I was miserable.....total BS but anyways!

I would absolutely tell my friend, do onto others as you would want done unto you....golden rule and I abide by it. I feel if you can't be honest with friends, family and so on, then you aren't worthy of their time. A good friend doesn't allow their friends to get hurt, in any way mentally or physically.

Just my opinion though! Uh yeah, absolutely! I have been cheated on many times, my then friends knew, the mother of the guy I was with even know, and no one told me because he was happy, who cares if I was miserable.....total BS but anyways!

I would absolutely tell my friend, do onto others as you would want done unto you....golden rule and I abide by it. I feel if you can't be honest with friends, family and so on, then you aren't worthy of their time. A good friend doesn't allow their friends to get hurt, in any way mentally or physically.

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I think if someone found out their spouse was cheating and then asked me I probably would confirm their suspicions. I would want someone to answer me honestly, so I would do the same for others. On the other hand, if my friend did not hear that she was being cheated on, and had no idea, I would not.

I tried that a couple years ago. One of my friends was cheating on her fiance (and her fiance was a good friend of ours as well.) One day we decided to to him she was cheating on him. He got so upset, confronted her and she first denied it.

A couple days later she admitted to it, he forgave her and my spouse and I ended up being "the bad guy" to his fiance. We ruined a relationship we had with her. We decided that would be the last time we would ever do anything like that.

I think if someone found out their spouse was cheating and then asked me I probably would confirm their suspicions. I would want someone to answer me honestly, so I would do the same for others. On the other hand, if my friend did not hear that she was being cheated on, and had no idea, I would not.

I tried that a couple years ago. One of my friends was cheating on her fiance (and her fiance was a good friend of ours as well.) One day we decided to to him she was cheating on him. He got so upset, confronted her and she first denied it.

A couple days later she admitted to it, he forgave her and my spouse and I ended up being "the bad guy" to his fiance. We ruined a relationship we had with her. We decided that would be the last time we would ever do anything like that.

You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars. If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question. I would not admit to knowing anything from hearsay alone.

Unless I witness the act with my own eyes, I absolutely would not say a word. However, the dilemma would come into play if I actually saw my partner’s friend cheating on him/her. Then the question becomes what would I want if I was the one being cheated on?

What I want my friend to tell me or would I want for them to conceal the information not wanting to hurt my feelings or put a strain on our friendship? Unless it go the point where there was no other choice but to speak about it, I would probably keep it to myself. There are too many times where friendships are ruined when this kind of scenario takes place.

That friend may not believe me or may be resentful even if he/she found out the info I revealed was accurate. All in all, it would probably be better for everyone involved if I didn’t say anything. I would not admit to knowing anything from hearsay alone.

Unless I witness the act with my own eyes, I absolutely would not say a word. However, the dilemma would come into play if I actually saw my partner’s friend cheating on him/her. Then the question becomes what would I want if I was the one being cheated on?

What I want my friend to tell me or would I want for them to conceal the information not wanting to hurt my feelings or put a strain on our friendship? Unless it go the point where there was no other choice but to speak about it, I would probably keep it to myself. There are too many times where friendships are ruined when this kind of scenario takes place.

That friend may not believe me or may be resentful even if he/she found out the info I revealed was accurate. All in all, it would probably be better for everyone involved if I didn’t say anything. You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars.

If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question. I would have to have seen the couple together before saying anything. Rumors could occur and that could be a disaster for all involved.

If I knew for sure and had seen it for myself or my mate had seen it and told me, I would have to say something. For one thing, if someone ask me something and I know the truth I can not lie. Secondly I can not stand for someone to cheat on their mate.

I would have to have seen the couple together before saying anything. Rumors could occur and that could be a disaster for all involved. If I knew for sure and had seen it for myself or my mate had seen it and told me, I would have to say something.

For one thing, if someone ask me something and I know the truth I can not lie. Secondly I can not stand for someone to cheat on their mate. You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars.

If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question. I agree with ginamichellesattic, unless you are "invited," as it were into the situation, it is definitely best to stay clear of it. If your friend asks you straight out if you have heard anything about it, you have to tell her, as gently as possible, that you have, explaining that while you had heard the rumors, you didn't want to cause trouble by passing on gossip.

There would be be little point in denying that you knew, if you did, she would find out in the end and never trust you again. Having said that, if you saw the cheating rats together out on a date, it would be very hard not to either confront them, or to get someone who doesn't know your friend, to phone her and give her an anonymous tip off! I agree with ginamichellesattic, unless you are "invited," as it were into the situation, it is definitely best to stay clear of it.

If your friend asks you straight out if you have heard anything about it, you have to tell her, as gently as possible, that you have, explaining that while you had heard the rumors, you didn't want to cause trouble by passing on gossip. There would be be little point in denying that you knew, if you did, she would find out in the end and never trust you again. Having said that, if you saw the cheating rats together out on a date, it would be very hard not to either confront them, or to get someone who doesn't know your friend, to phone her and give her an anonymous tip off!

You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars. If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question. Well actually I don't have too many friends, so the very few I do have, yes I would.

They wouldn't even have to ask me first. If I heard the rumor, I'd tell them. It's scenarios like this that makes me hold my dear friends near.

I know they trust me, and wouldn't tell them something just to hurt their feelings. Of course, I would say a rumor is going around, that she should investigate. Over 10 years ago, I told someone I knew well, but wasn't good friends with that I caught her boyfriend with his ex.

I had no reason to make it up, as it didn't affect me in the least. However, she ended up believing the boyfriend and mad at me. I seen then, that was a mistake, even though I seen it with my very own eyes.

She learned the hard way that I was right, but since, I never tell someone I don't know well enough. Some people don't want to believe their partner is cheating, even if they see it with their own eyes. Anyone has to ask themselves, is this information worth risky my relationship with my friend.

Then proceed with caution. Well actually I don't have too many friends, so the very few I do have, yes I would. They wouldn't even have to ask me first.

If I heard the rumor, I'd tell them. It's scenarios like this that makes me hold my dear friends near. I know they trust me, and wouldn't tell them something just to hurt their feelings.

Of course, I would say a rumor is going around, that she should investigate. Over 10 years ago, I told someone I knew well, but wasn't good friends with that I caught her boyfriend with his ex. I had no reason to make it up, as it didn't affect me in the least.

However, she ended up believing the boyfriend and mad at me. I seen then, that was a mistake, even though I seen it with my very own eyes. She learned the hard way that I was right, but since, I never tell someone I don't know well enough.

Some people don't want to believe their partner is cheating, even if they see it with their own eyes. Anyone has to ask themselves, is this information worth risky my relationship with my friend. Then proceed with caution.

You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars. If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question. I would tell my friend.

I don't think I could go about my life seeing this friend everyday knowing that the person that they are with is out cheating on them. I don't think my concious would let me not tell him/her. Another reason why I would tell my friend is because I would expect my friends to tell me if the person that I am with is cheating if they knew about it.

I feel like if I won't tell you something like that then I am not your friend. I know that it would more than likely hurt that person but I think that it would hurt them even more knowing that I am suppose to be there friend and knew about it and didn't say anything. I would tell my friend.

I don't think I could go about my life seeing this friend everyday knowing that the person that they are with is out cheating on them. I don't think my concious would let me not tell him/her. Another reason why I would tell my friend is because I would expect my friends to tell me if the person that I am with is cheating if they knew about it.

I feel like if I won't tell you something like that then I am not your friend. I know that it would more than likely hurt that person but I think that it would hurt them even more knowing that I am suppose to be there friend and knew about it and didn't say anything. You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars.

If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question. I certainly would tell a friend if I knew her partner was cheating because that is the right thing to do. I have been cheating upon and many people in my small town knew my husband was ‘fooling around’ no one bothered to tell me and after I found out and threw him out then people began telling me.

I was so angry with them and it added to my anger in a huge way. Had they told me when they first found out I would have been spared months of feeling bad. She might not believe me f I simply blurted it out, so I would offer to take her to go catch him in the act.

Trust me cheaters are easy to catch if you follow them and really open your eyes. I had suspected my husband was cheating, but could not catch him in the act, until one day he slipped up. I certainly would tell a friend if I knew her partner was cheating because that is the right thing to do.

I have been cheating upon and many people in my small town knew my husband was ‘fooling around’ no one bothered to tell me and after I found out and threw him out then people began telling me. I was so angry with them and it added to my anger in a huge way. Had they told me when they first found out I would have been spared months of feeling bad.

She might not believe me f I simply blurted it out, so I would offer to take her to go catch him in the act. Trust me cheaters are easy to catch if you follow them and really open your eyes. I had suspected my husband was cheating, but could not catch him in the act, until one day he slipped up.

You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars. If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question. I believe certain situations such as this situation really depends on how close a relationship you have with this person.

However, if this other person is shooting her mouth off all over the place about a relationship like this behind your friend’s back, you might go ahead and tell her what you know. Lying is really not a good solution. I always find it better to not share gossip with people and never believe any gossip until you go to the source and find out if it is true or not.

I don’t even bother with gossip unless people are actually talking about me personally. If your friend actually asks you what you know, the best thing you can do is actually tell her what you know. However, I wouldn’t offer information up unless I was asked about it first.

I believe certain situations such as this situation really depends on how close a relationship you have with this person. However, if this other person is shooting her mouth off all over the place about a relationship like this behind your friend’s back, you might go ahead and tell her what you know. Lying is really not a good solution.

I always find it better to not share gossip with people and never believe any gossip until you go to the source and find out if it is true or not. I don’t even bother with gossip unless people are actually talking about me personally. If your friend actually asks you what you know, the best thing you can do is actually tell her what you know.

However, I wouldn’t offer information up unless I was asked about it first. You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars. If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question.

In this situation, I would tell the friend that the other friend had been going around talking about having an affair with her partner, but I would neither confirm nor deny it was really going on, unless I had concrete proof. It would be horrible enough to think that your friend would lie about something like that, let alone think that the two could actually be engaged in an affair, so I wouldn’t make it any worse for her by feeding into the rumors. For me, any friend who is willing to do that to another friend is not worth it, because I could very well be next, my loyalties lie with those who are loyal.

I would help my friend catch the two in the act, and be there to support her through it all. If she decides to stay friends with the girl or stay in a relationship with her partner, then all I could do is support her. I can’t dictate what she does with her life, I can only be the best possible friend that I can be.

In this situation, I would tell the friend that the other friend had been going around talking about having an affair with her partner, but I would neither confirm nor deny it was really going on, unless I had concrete proof. It would be horrible enough to think that your friend would lie about something like that, let alone think that the two could actually be engaged in an affair, so I wouldn’t make it any worse for her by feeding into the rumors. For me, any friend who is willing to do that to another friend is not worth it, because I could very well be next, my loyalties lie with those who are loyal.

I would help my friend catch the two in the act, and be there to support her through it all. If she decides to stay friends with the girl or stay in a relationship with her partner, then all I could do is support her. I can’t dictate what she does with her life, I can only be the best possible friend that I can be.

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From personal experience... When my ex husband cheated on me,EVERYONE knew but me. Our boss and even worse people that I thought were OUR friends knew for months without even telling me. I have never felt so betrayed in all my life.

Had this happned to any of them I would have told. Yes I would tell. From personal experience... When my ex husband cheated on me,EVERYONE knew but me.

Our boss and even worse people that I thought were OUR friends knew for months without even telling me. I have never felt so betrayed in all my life. Had this happned to any of them I would have told.

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No these are the situations where you mind your business as it will always be you whoi is hated by both. I don't know why some people feel they are the divine hand that will solve the Worlds problems they should mind their business. No these are the situations where you mind your business as it will always be you whoi is hated by both.

I don't know why some people feel they are the divine hand that will solve the Worlds problems they should mind their business. You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars. If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question.