I'm a happily married man of many years, how do I tell a close friend straight out I don't want to fool around with her?

I would stop the flirting with her first of all. That gives her the impression that you might be interested in fooling around. I might even try to avoid seeing her as much if thats possible and if needed, explain to her just what you did on here.

Lol Tell her that you are a happily married man and you do NOT have an interest in cheating on your wife in any way. I would also let her know that you enjoy being her friend and confident, but it could not go any further. If she chooses to stay away then it was not a True Friendship.

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Well, even if you have and have decided to stop doing that ( not good if you're married right... ) there is one clear direct way to deal with it.... You sit her down, you say you enjoy her company and you really like your friendship. Then you say, my marriage is the best thing in my life, I would never do anything to hurt it or my wife and family. A good friend will sit and agree with you.

No more needs be said. If she gets all antzy and says why have you been leading me on, you say you enjoy her company but you are married which she knows right....she can't get too uppity and if she does then its maybe not the friendship you thought it was.... Be clear, be nice, be honest and above all make sure you tell her your marriage is your life, whether you 100% agree or not you must be clear about who has your loyalty and why.

I won't sugar coat my answer. Hopefully you're strong enough to put the information to good use and not sugar coat it for yourself in the translation. 1.

Your first mistake was to flirt with anyone who isn't the woman you're happily married to. 2. You must take responsibility for your mistake and the problems it has and will cause, making no excuses.3.

Tell your wife what you have done and agree never to do it again. 4. WITH your wife, meet with this woman and explain that you've made a horrible mistake by flirting with her, that you apologize for the confusion and problems it has caused and you will never do it again.5.

Explain that due to your inability to remain completely faithful to your wife in every way, you have learned that you can not be trusted to "be there" for anyone except your wife on any meaningful, emotional, confidential way and you are very, very sorry.6. In the future don't turn to any woman that you're not happily married to as a confidant or choose a different relationship instead of the one you have with your wife. Women are better counseled by other women, not sympathetic men.

Good intentions has led you to where you are now, so claiming them as a defense is a lie we like to tell ourselves to justify things we shouldn't have done. Unless you are agreed with your life partner that sharing your heart and attention (or body) with others is acceptable for you and her both, you must decide what you'd rather have. A fantasy of an open relationship that only goes so far before there's a problem, or the real thing.No relationship, with anyone but my wife is worth fighting for or keeping.

If there was anyone I felt I needed to spend time with that was more important than my wife now I'd divorce her and marry the other. Pretending otherwise courts disaster. Which is what you are experiencing now or you wouldn't be in this mess.

Right? If you needed a sugar coated answer, meditate on this beautiful picture instead.

Don't make me come over there and take your Interwebz away! Do the right thing and live happily ever after.

Anonymous :) My best advice would be to tell the girl you care about her, but this can't happen. Tell her you love your wife, you love your marriage and you don't want to ruin it! If she is a true friend and she truly cares she will understand.... However remember some women (and men) get crazy enough to cause problems if you don't respond to them or deny them.

Some are willing to ruin another relationship so that other person has no choice but to pick them. You could text her that way you have proof to show your wife that you told her to stop, if he decides to try and cause problems by speaking to your wife. I wish you the best of luck and I hope everything works out!

@Tealmyster.

I think the likelihood of you and this woman getting back to "just friends" is minimal because you have flirted enough that she has received signals from you that told her you were interested in at least a physical relationship with her rather than your wife. You should tell your wife right now what has happened. Period.

If this woman you have been flirting with becomes upset when you do what is necessary to end the flirtatious charade then it would be likely she tells your wife of your flirtatious indiscretions. This is the move you need to avoid at all costs. "This is chess son, not checkers" sorry for the game reference this is not a game but that statement is relevant to your next move.

Telling your wife today of the realtionship and then immediatley after that informing your filrt girlfiend of your intention to end the relationship. This is your last hope of actual truthful redemption in your marriage. You can say "I want to still be friends" but that simply will not happen.

Your wife will not let it happen and you will like it. Trust me this is the best way. Chess not checkers.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.