Is there a way to tell the truth and not wreck relationships or come off as a "tattler"?

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It depends on who is recieving the message. I have been on both sides of the fence. I always question the motives of the person doing the telling.

Most people have a clue that something is wrong before anyone tells them. The only question is, do they really want that feeling confirmed or would they rather have the ignorance and hope they are wrong. Most people do not deal well with painful revelations.

Hating the messenger for the news is the standard response. I would rather know if I were being betrayed. I had friends at my ex's school, yet none of them called me when he started behaving like a player in the midst of a so called reconciliation with me.

I found out on my own. I grew suspicious and started snooping. It wasn't hard.

He was amazingly predictable even though most of what he was doing was a departure from his behavior during our marraige. It would have been very awkward for someone at his school to talk to me about his behavior. I probably would have been angry with them, but no more so than with him.

First you have to ask yourself, is telling them worth the collateral damage? Could they find out what is going on without your involvement? Is this something they really want to know or is it something they know but have chosen to ignore?

At the end of all the questions is this, is it really your place to say anything? Personally I would want to know but I find that I am in a minority. I have delivered such news before and recieved such a blast of righteous indignation and condemnation that the only saving grace is that they were in a separate state.To this day she lives in the world of "he was just temporarily misguided by one person online" instead of the truth which was five years of cybersex followed by a cross country meet and greet when he drove to see his parents on the other side of the country.

I didn't even get as far as telling her about the fact that he had physically met any of those women. Just the idea that he had been online for over 6 months with one of them was enough to send her into a holier than thou frenzy about how no one knew her husband better than she did. God bless her and her fantasies.

She deserved the truth but didn't want it. Before you tell someone something you must accept the fact that your relationship with that person will be forever altered as will their relationship with the one they care about. Some things have to be told such as life threatening things.

Other things, you may be just setting yourself up for a world of pain.

Tell the truth in love. Tell the truth but from a place of humility instead of acting like you are better than the other person. Tell the person that you have been in the same place and that is why you can see it so clearly..

1 This question has been asked many times before on this site. If you have a friend and you know something about their relationship with another friend or significant other the popular opinion on here has been to keep it to yourself. If something is bad it will eventually come to light and the best you can do is be the "supportive" friend instead of the "tattler" friend.

Some people have suggested confronting the situation on your own.

This question has been asked many times before on this site. If you have a friend and you know something about their relationship with another friend or significant other the popular opinion on here has been to keep it to yourself. If something is bad it will eventually come to light and the best you can do is be the "supportive" friend instead of the "tattler" friend.

Some people have suggested confronting the situation on your own.

2 I agree with mostimaginative. Unless there is some danger or pressing reason that you feel you must tell your friend about, keep it to yourself. Usually it's the bearer of the bad news who is resented, even if you are telling the truth.

I agree with mostimaginative. Unless there is some danger or pressing reason that you feel you must tell your friend about, keep it to yourself. Usually it's the bearer of the bad news who is resented, even if you are telling the truth.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.