Love or parents?hi all, please give advice..,whom to select between love and parents.. here is my story..?

She's venting and I don't blame her and she is bringing a lot of excellent points as to WHY she should go. Hun, having had a military father myself, I wouldn't be surprised if he refuses to let you go, no matter how mature and logical your argument. You could try to get one of the chaperons to speak to your father.

Have that chaperon reassure your father that you will be well watched over and no harm will come to you. That is the only advice I can give you because as "his" daughter, he probably will not listen to you. Sadly, he has that over-controlling, my-way-or-the-highway attitude.

Unfortunately, our hands are tied when it comes to telling other parents how to raise their children and many times they get upset over us telling them what to do more so than the problem at hand. By law, we can only get involved if there is something immoral or some abuse going on that can be proven, but then, proven or not, some of us get so outraged that we get involved anyhow. Fortunately, this doesn't sound like an abuse problem or immoral issue, but one of parental over protection, control, or maybe an issue of security, although you may not think so.

We are only hearing one side of the story, so, to be honest, people can't really tell you what to do in this case except go to the source. It is always imperative that children obey their parents unless there is a sense of harm to the children, so, what may be best is to go to both your parents and speak to them in an adult manner and explain what you have said to us. Maybe you'll get somewhere or not, but at least you have tried.

Kicking and screaming will get you nowhere (although I don't know if that's the case), but if you're honest with us and yourself, I'm sure whatever happens won't be the end of the world. You may or may not want to tell them you asked for advice on the internet, from past understanding, your parents may be reluctant to allow you anywhere if they find out you're challenging their authority, especially on the world wide web. So, just talk to them, gently, and let them know how you feel and see where it goes from there.

Nothing wrong with reminding them how hard you have worked to get there. Good luck! I would tell you what I would do if you were my daughter, but that wouldn't be fair to your parents and I'm sure, from your writing, that you love them and would not want them treated unfairly.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.