My grandmother and mother is controlling my life ( I'm 22)?

Yes PEOPLE! IT IS HER BUSINESS! I am a case worker at a Domestic Violence shelter and what she is explaining is a form of abuse!

Ok, now that I have said that, You have to be careful here my dear. Her abuser is controlling. When abusers feel as if they are being accused of abusing they can get worse.

1) go online and look up domestic abuse/violence info. Educate yourself on it. See the descriptions of abusers and think if you can relate any of the things on the list with other things he does with your Grandmother.

Look for a questionnaire on "Am I being abused." It will give the run down on things you may recognize in their marriage. 2)Talk with your Grandmother in private about it.

Tell her you are there for her to talk to. Do not get frustrated. She has been with him a long time and things such as this will not change overnight.

She is the only one who can make the decision on what she is willing to do. Give her a crisis line number but tell her not to call from home or clear out her dialed numbers. Help to educate her.

3)Get support. How old are you. This is a big job for anyone especially you.

You are what is known as a secondary victim. You are feeling the results of what he does. Talk with someone who will listen to your concerns such as a Domestic Violence crisis line worker.

There are several different forms of abuse. Mental, emotional, verbal, financial, sexual, and physical. Stand by her side and educate yourself big time!

Good Luck Jenny Domestic Violence Shelter Caseworker.

Well, it is their marriage, not yours. And, they may gang up against you in a united front of denial (which is normal). It is difficult for you to witness your Grandmother being abused like that.

However, nothing will change unless she takes the first step. So, you need to encourage her to go to counseling and take that next stop. Peace.

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