The girlfriend of a friend of mine was drunk at a party and tried to kiss me. I turned her down. Should I tell my friend about it?

There are actually a few things that you need to think about before you can pick an answer to this question. The first question I would ask myself is this: Are you close to your friend? Do you think that he would stop talking to you if you told him the truth?

Do you think the girlsfriend will tell him? These are all things you need to think about. I personally would tell my friend and the reason for this answer is because firstly I wouldn't want the girl to tell him because then it looks like you are keeping things from your friend.

Secondly if this is a good friend of yours and you don't want to see them get hurt, now is a good time to tell him rather than when they are together for like 10 years and she cheats on him. I hope that you tell your friend and that he values you for your honestly, loyalty and friendship. Good luck and I'd like to know how this turns out, let me know.

Good luck.

If you are close friends with him, he needs to know that she doesn't respect him enough not to cheat on him. OR If you're not really that close, then you can tell him or not, depending on your mood...if you work it right you might be able to get a free beer out of it...

Definitely tell him. It's better that he hear it from you than anyone else. He will respect the honesty and the honorable way you handled the situation.

Plus, if you kept it a secret and he finally found out about it from someone else...he asks you...and when you try to defend yourself...he might think that you're lying.

I believe you should tell him. The way I see it is he is your friend, NOT her, and your loyalties lie with him. If I was in the position of your friend, I'd want to know and would be more hurt if my friend didn't tell me.

I'm sorry you found yourself in such a compromising situation. There's no winning among the three of you, but I believe there's a way to lose the least painfully. I'm recommending the following steps toward a resolution.1) Approach the girlfriend and "remind" her of the incident.2) Give her an ultimatum: Either you both tell your friend together or you'll tell him without her.

Give her a deadline. However, be very careful with this one. If she believes you'll follow through, she could beat you to the punch with a story so full of lies, that it may be hard to correct with the truth.

Unfortunately, people tend to take the first story as the benchmark of an incident, treating with distrust any subsequent versions.3) Follow through if she chooses not to go with you--sooner rather than later. This is the tough part. You'll have to approach your friend, fully aware that you're risking your friendship by telling him.

However, being proactive with the truth is far better than letting him hear the story from someone else, with all of its distortions. If your friendship is solid, he'll give you the benefit of the doubt. If your friendship isn't solid, he'll read the worst into your "participation."

As bad as his sense of betrayal over your "confession" can potentially be, from what I've been able to observe, people often feel a far worse betrayal when a friend or loved one lies by omission. Even if you lose his friendship, you'll have greater peace of mind knowing that you did the right thing by being transparent; by telling your friend some painful information that could help him in making a better informed decision about his relationship with his girlfriend. Chances are that her behavior will lead to your friend's greater heartache later, if it's not addressed now when it's "manageable."

However, I'm going to hope for the best: 1) that your friend thanks you for your candor and gives you the benefit of the doubt, and 2) that his girlfriend apologizes to both of you for jeopardizing two relationships with her thoughtless actions. Respectfully, Shin.

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