They say you can pick your friends but you can not pick your relatives?

They say you can pick your friends but you can not pick your relatives. Do you have that one relative that you wish you would have had the chance to pick instead of just inherited? Asked by LouLou 48 months ago Similar questions: pick friends relatives Games & Leisure > Gambling.

Interesting thing... I did pick my camily, lol! They gave me a choice after my mom got remarried I was given the choice of my paternal father or her husband, which was much like a real father growing up. It did affect which part of the family I got to see growing up.

Kind of sad. Unfortunately my decisions were made on lies that I was fed by members of my family. Kinda wish I never would have gotten adopted.

I love my biological father very much and my adopted family doesn't really like me at all.

I have one cousin that I would like to take a pick to rather than just pick. I have a spinster cousin that is about as vile a creature as anyone that I know. She makes it her business to make catty remarks about just about everyone and when she takes a break form that she usually fills the time by spreading false rumors about people.My dad was never one to say anything about any of the people on his side of the family and would never call them out on something that they said but this cousin drove him over the edge one time.

It is a long story but suffice it to say that when an elderly member of the family fell in the hospital she blamed my mother even though mom had spent more time sitting with this person than any of her blood relatives including this cousin who hadn’t done any sitting at all. After a week in the hospital dad’s family had had a conference and decided that they just couldn’t stay 24/7 any longer and mom had no part of the meeting and even went and stayed for several hours after the agreed on time that they would try having no sitter. Dad called his niece and chewed her out once he heard form someone what she was saying.

She denied it and he let up but then another cousin called him and told him that she had heard her say the same thing so he called and chewed her out again. The sad thing is that mom will speak to this cousin when she sees her but dad never spoke to her again and I still haven’t spoken to her since and it’s been almost thirty years. Sources: my family tree .

Yes, my father! M dad was the most difficult person I have ever met in my entire life. S moods were constantly changing - you never knew what to expect.

He was 40 when I was born so his values were different than a lot of my friends parents. He was EXREMELY strict and ruled the house with an iron fist. Basically my sister and I lived in fear of him (spankings, slaps across the face, screaming, ranting).

I think he might have been bi-polar but in those days nobody knew about any of that. On the other hand, he was very intelligent and knowledgable about books, the theater, the arts, opera and all that stuff, so we were often taken to museums, plays, etc. And we were exposed to every kind of person, and every kind of lifestyle. I appreciate all of that stuff, as well as the old fashioned manners we were expected to have.

He was a total control freak though, and would use emotional blackmail to get you to do whatever he wanted. If you didn't do what he wanted he would refuse to speak to you until you did - sometimes in my adult years this went on for over a year. I would keep in contact by writing postcards, but he wouldn't speak to me.

He caused problems at every family gathering, had to be seated at the head of the table, and if he wasn't he'd get offended. If my stepsons came to Christmas dinner when they were adults and starting families of their own he'd give me an ultimatum, cause he didn't like them, so it would be I'd have to decide between him or them. Of course I had to choose my stepsons, but it was a horrible position to be in.

He was very demanding and unreasonable, until around the age of 92, when he started losing it. He became a much nicer person (I think he forgot he was supposed to be mean!) and for the next 4 years of his life we actually enjoyed each other's company. Of course he might have forgotten who I was - he forgot my husband and children.

Anyway, it all worked out it the end. Now I refuse to put up with ANYONE who tries to manipulate me! Sources: Living with my dad .

1 It's said you can pick your nose but not to pick your friend's nose as well... At least I've witnessed plenty of people driving down the road or stopped at a light picking their nose! I actually saw a man diligently cleaning out his nostrils while speeding down the freeway in an icky green sedan - I had to laugh at the irony of the green car and the fact I've seen many men wipe these buried treasures on things. I was wondering where movie trivia came into play for this question?

It's said you can pick your nose but not to pick your friend's nose as well... At least I've witnessed plenty of people driving down the road or stopped at a light picking their nose! I actually saw a man diligently cleaning out his nostrils while speeding down the freeway in an icky green sedan - I had to laugh at the irony of the green car and the fact I've seen many men wipe these buried treasures on things. I was wondering where movie trivia came into play for this question?

2 Yep. It's my brother's wife. I wish I could have picked a wife for him, or at least this is one instance where I wish my parent's could have.

Yep. It's my brother's wife. I wish I could have picked a wife for him, or at least this is one instance where I wish my parent's could have.

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