Why Do Marriages Fail?

After working with hundreds of couples and families in private practice and as clincal consultant, I'd say that the majority of failed marriages result from the couple's inability to effectively listen for, express and meet eachother's core relationship needs. The reverse is also true here....

Communication breakdown, infidelity, no more love, wanting different things, boredom....

Marriages also fail because of what the parents have taught the child. Some parents teach their children to miss-communicate as a way of controlling the relationship. Or worst, some children learn from their parents that abuse is the way a marriage is suppose to be; and from some reason, the child turned adult cannot see the harm in the abuse they bring to their own marriage.

Most people decide to marry when they are in love. Love makes people blind to their partner's fault and unbearable attitude. When the love fades (it does, in 18 months or less), many problems emerge.

Most incompatibility issues only become apparent when two people live together for a long time.

Looking back over the last three or more decades, I believe that somewhere along the line we stopped raising our children to be husbands, wives and parents.. perhaps it was during the 60's free love movement, or the 80's 'me-me-me' generation. Who knows? The divorce rate is proof enough that our society enters marriage unprepared.

I believe that the break-down of American families was the biggest tragedy of the 20th century, and desparately hope that this century will see some changes for the better.. our children and their children deserve better than what they are getting! Marriage is the most rewarding, yet difficult endeavor of a life time, followed only by raising children.. so if you think other areas of your life are too difficult, then don't even attempt marriage & child rearing. FYI ~ I've been married 45+ years.It's still rewarding, and it's still difficult.

I believe that if a couple does not pray together,they will not stay together. We must both be willing to realize when we are at fault & ask forgiveness,we also must put the others feelings in mind. Realize why they are acting the way they are.

We must learn to listen to what the other one is saying from inside,not just the words that come out of their mouths. If you really love them then you will begin to listen deeper. Try it with God being the head of that marriage in prayer & see if it does not work.

For what we really love or want we fight far even if it is something we don't feel like doing. We must make sacrifices.

1. People's inability to change or ever admit they're wrong.

3. Lack of a desire to work to maintain intimacy.

6. Gender roles or the lack of femininity/masculinity in a partner.

9. Physical and emotional distances created by partners in the military.

12. Loss of fun and laughter in the relationship.

16. Unsolicited advice or influence from family, in-laws, or the church.

17. Extreme age differences between partners.

18. Workaholic or extremely ambitious partners.

19. Getting married for any reason other than love.

20. It's just too easy to call it quits and get a divorce.

All of these things can contribute to the downfall of a marriage.

Rainbowz has a pretty nice list. In my opinion I would state.

2. Unwilling to accept partner for who they are and not who they want them to be.

Infidelity, lack of communication which often leads to compromising trust, friendship and loyalty and the commitment that was vowed forever. There may also be peer pressure especially if one is from a different religion, caste, country etc. Although we are now living in the twentieth century, some age old belief's amongst some societies still live on........

Lack of communication. Lack of putting GOD first.

Number one reason for marital problems are financial issues.

People rather quit than work things out. You can't expect for your relationship to be perfect. If you want to quit on your marriage because it is not perfect to find that "perfect" someone, then you will never find someone because nobody is perfect!

Everyone has some type of issue or another. So it is better to work at your marriage than go find a new partner. Reflect on why you got married in the first place.

Marriages fail for the same reasons business fail.

No mutual agreements as to how the company should run.

In most cases the marriages fail by reason of selfishness of the spouses and their failure to develope effective means of communication and mutual understanding.

It is either due to over ambitions, utter selfishness or both. This may look as a very generalized statement. But when you read any issue with these the things will be clear.

Any thing you can think about and see it through the lens of these two. You will be able to read the answer well. Think again and again.

I've never been married and am mostly opposed to the idea but I feel that marriage fails due to unrealistic expectations forced on us by an archaic system of beliefs.

Heterosexual marriage comes with a whole bag of preconceived ideas and roles that are not fair for either party. Men have to be "men" as society has defined them. Women have to be "women" like men think they should be.

When either party doesn't meet these expectations trouble arises out of the disappointment or from a power struggle. I've heard people say that in their spouse they are looking for their mother/father or at least the stereotypical equivalent. If a person sat down and thought hard about what defines a wife or a husband and put aside culture and ignorant beliefs passed down thru the generations then there would be more flexibility in a marriage and less bondage.

That's just my opinion. Other sources I've read online say that the main cause of divorce is financial. That's a whole other can of worms stemming from greed and materialism that over-rule love and common sense.

But what do I know. I'm just a little gay boy who can't marry even if I wanted to.

Most relationships fail as people have less and less time for each other. Lives are getting complicated only time time for indivisual "ME" is left no time for US.

Because lack of purity between one or both wife and husband.

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