Would you be upset if your navy seal boyfriend/husband refused to tell you basic details of his missions, like what country he's going to?

No. As the wife of a retired navy enlisted man who did all of his time in submarines, there were many times that I did not know where he was or when he would return. S missions were secret per the government, and I had very little contact with him when he was out to sea.

I could send family grams, limited to something like 200 characters of text, a few times a mission. I would receive letters from him periodically, and the rare email. (Submarines have to surface to get a satellite signal.) The job of a fast attack submarine is to go underwater, hide, and listen.

Keyword being - hide. And that of the navy seal boyfriend/husband, depends on these facts. He would not tell me where he was in the world, and it's not really any of my business.

While that may seem odd, there is really no reason for me to know where he was going. I could do nothing about it, and it was his job.It has nothing to do with trusting the person you are with. They are not allowed to tell, and that is it.

It's part of what you sign up for when you date or marry someone in the military. We knew people who had been caught telling their wives or girlfriends (or husband/boyfriends) about where they were going. The funny thing is that people can't keep their mouths shut.

You may say you're not going to tell but it might slip out in conversation. This is a sure fire way to get your Navy significant other in the deep dark sh**s. He or she could lose rank, go to court marshal, or have any number of unpleasant things associated with betraying a government secret (some people call it treason).

So, no I would not be upset because I have been there and done that. I wasn't upset then (a bit lonely but not upset), and I'm still not upset now about having lived through it.

I would not be upset, because it was his responsibility to keep that information secure, and it could potentially endanger the safety of his family if he disclosed it. Secrecy is part of the job. On the other hand, once we were married, I would expect him to leave that job.

I would not want to be married to someone who was obligated to be two people, one of whom was a complete stranger to me. I would also not sit up at night wondering where my husband was, or what was happening. I would understand the necessity of such a life, but I would not link such a life with my own.

He would have to choose what was more important: his career or his wife.

I would not be upset if my husband were not at liberty of discussing any details about his missions, tours, or deployments. I understand that some information related to military missions can be classified, prohibiting the soldiers from relating any information to even their family members, in order to ensure the safety of all military members involved as well as the overall success of the mission. My husband was deployed to Iraq about 6 years ago.At the time I was pregnant with our second child and during a short phone conversation, my husband sadly related to me that he may not be calling me again for a long time (he said it could have been up to 2 months that he could have been unable to call me).

When I asked him why, he simply said that his company was moving into a different area of Iraq (where he could not tell me of course) and would be busy with a special mission there (what they were doing he could not tell me either). So of course, my heart was pounding in my ears and I was almost nauseous with worry over what these soldiers could possibly be doing that was that secret and grand that not even their families could find out about it. Of course, the military was worried that soldiers might blabber the news of their mission to friends and family over the phone or via email, possibly enabling enemies and terrorists hacking into the phone lines and computers to find out what the Army’s next steps were.

All I could do was to try and understand that my husband was bound to secrecy and to hope for the best in the meantime. The one thing he said, that got to me the most was “I will call you as soon as I get back.It might be 2 or 3 months until I can call again, though. If you have the baby in the meantime, good luck with the birth….

€ Trust me, most times your husband/boyfriend would not want to keep the details of these missions to himself, but would rather want to talk about them to make himself feel better, understood, supported and more at ease. However, doing so could potentially place his company and himself at risk (in case the enemy, for instance, found out about the precise mission details).

I am not a female, but I can speak on behalf of any military soldier or sailor. Revealing any parts of a future mission or deployment operation is not allowed because it could jeopardize the mission if the information gets leaked to the wrong person. Details such as a mission's location and purpose are vital to the nation's security and should be withheld from family and friends.

If you truly love your military spouse then you should trust his/her word and believe that he is doing the right thing.

I would be upset if he were to tell me information which he has sworn to hold in classified confidence. If he would have successfully made it through the vetting process to become a SEAL, by that stage I do not see how I would even fathom to ask such questions of him.

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