Caught smoking weed by parents, how to gain back trust?

I have personally seen the proof that it damages short term memory, by seeing test results before pot smoking and after pot smoking. One of the biggest problems with pot, though, is a loss of motivation. It is subtle, but has a significant effect.

For a young person who has not yet established a career, this subtle loss of motivation and short term memory can result in a career that is not as lucrative, or no career at all. In this economy, where top college graduates are struggling to find stable employment, it is very scary to watch your child intentionally handicap himself in his education and career. I have friends whose adult children, in their twenties and thirties are routinely unemployed or laid off, simply due to a bad economy, even though they are college educated, and good workers.

Their employers stay in touch, saying they really want them back, but they due to layoffs, they don't have a position yet. A parent simply cannot make a child understand how difficult it is to keep a paycheck coming in. Good parents make it look easy, and unfortunately, kids sometimes don't make it, because they weren't expecting it to be that hard.

A lot of kids think that if you do what they tell you to do, it will magically happen, like if you get a college degree, you are guaranteed a job. It's just not true. There are people with college degrees making near minimum wage, because they couldn't compete.

For starters, many potheads are excluded right off the bat by the drug tests that many employers require. In addition, pot use can cause paranoia, non-bizarre paranoid delusions (my neighbors are messing with me) and psychotic episodes. These are very real.

I have seen them personally. They are not dramatic, and people dismiss the person as "a little weird" or a "pothead", but it can be a significant handicap that can interfere with a kid getting to experience normal life experiences -- having a good career, building a stable marriage that lasts, etc. It's sort of like trying to run a foot race with twenty pound weights strapped to your ankles. You can do it, but you'll be slower than the rest, and someone else is going to take the prize, and you may finish last.

This not something that parents will willingly let happen to their children. It's our JOB to try to help our kids at least finish near the front (translation -- able to get a decent job, and pay for a comfortable home, good food and a few luxuries). Yes, some pot smokers manage it.

And, some don't. Overall, the pot smokers that I know make a lower income than the non-smokers. No parents want to see their kids take a risk like that, that will adversely affect the rest of their lives.

Kids get used to depending on parents for food and shelter, but parents know that we will grow old and die. Our final lesson to our kids before they go out on their own is to help them establish a career that will support them when we are no longer around to help out. Drugs and alcohol are proven to undermine a person's ability to maintain stable relationships and manage their responsibilities.

Again, people do manage it, but it's like slogging through knee deep muck, when everyone else is on hard ground. It ruins relationships by making people lazier and less willing to do what needs to be done, by making people paranoid and apathetic, and sheer economics. The stuff costs money, and your spouse is going to be very frustrated that your weed is more important than your kid's braces or getting the roof fixed, especially since you are likely to make a lower income in the first place.

And, a spouse is going to be concerned about the bad example to the kids, and the chances of losing a job to a drug test. It's just a strain on a marriage. No one can make you stop.

But, no one can make your parents happy about it either. This is something you are going to have to disagree on. I hope you are one of the lucky ones who can navigate college, and a double-dip recession (or maybe even a depression), with both hands tied behind your back and a joint hanging out of your mouth.

Last, but not least, the teen brain is still in a developmental stage, and unnatural stimulation of cannibinoid receptors can permanently alter the way that your brain develops. For instance, early use of pot can lead to decreased ability to control impulses. http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/art... Best Wishes.

It looks like you want to ruin your life. At some point the "weed" will not be strong enough for you and you'll go to harder stuff. So, if you are in school your school work will suffer and you may drop out.

If you smell like weed you won't be able to get a job, not even a minimum wage job. Lying to them is not a good idea. Take a piece of paper and make 2 columns on it.

On one side write "Pro" and the other side write "Con" then on the "Pro" side write what's good about using the "Weed" and on the "Con" side write what is bad about it. Look at your answers and think about them and hopefully you'll quit.

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