Dealing with abusive family members?

Divorce your mother. Give up. Avoid guilt.

Move on, and understand that there are people who are toxic to you and it will get worse. Why am I saying this? I had to part ways with my mother.

When I saw her repeating the same patterns with my son, it was an easy decision. You don't want to go through it twice. It's even more painful when you see the anguish in a child's eyes, and all those memories come flooding back.

Also, do not fear that because you are psychologically abused you will make a bad parent. It sounds like you will break the cycle, if you have kids, and give them a much better shot. If any other person on this planet were putting you through this, would you put up with it?No.

Just because it's a "mother" does not make it okay. I waited way too long to make this move. Step back from your circumstance, have a hard look at it from "outside" yourself, and then choose YOU.

You can't hit a target that is not there. Don't be her target. Put a lot of distance between you and if it lasts a lifetime, so be it.My mother is 87 and I know she will go to her grave without a prayer of an apology.

I've learned to live with this, and it doesn't even phase me anymore. There's a lot of love in the world. Go get some and remove this person from your life.

This is my personal, not professional, advice. God bless.

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