Did you ever have to put your life on hold because of someone else? If so, why and how did it work out?

I have had to do so multiple times while my husband was still in the military. While it’s a great profession to be in and an honorable job to hold, the military oftentimes has little regard for the needs and aspirations of the military spouse. Shortly after I married my husband, I began taking college classes at distance education location for one of the schools working in collaboration with the military.

I was already in my early twenties when I first started, since I was a non-citizen (German national) at the time and had to request an immigrant visa prior to beginning school. As a green card holder, I was then able to sign up for classes. Since I was an already older non-traditional student, I had made strict plans to take on increased course loads and finish my Bachelor’s degree early to make up for the years “lost”.

Unfortunately, just as I was about 60 credits shy of my BA, my husband was deployed to Iraq for one year, leaving me to fend for myself and my Kindergartener and newborn baby. Since I was still employed full-time at the time as well, I quickly became overwhelmed with everything in my life, and as a result I delayed finishing up my degree by almost 4 years. One and a half years after I had taken a break from classes, I applied at a different university (since we had moved to the US at that point), transferred my existing credits and took on additional requirements for my specific degree.

Only in 2008 was I able to finally graduate after completing all requirements. If I would have had to delay my progress, I could have finished many years earlier and could have had my masters or higher by now. But I did what I had to do at the time to stay sane and meet all my other responsibilities as well.

I did, but only briefly. A few weeks ago, my mom had surgery. I went to stay with her for a week and took care of her.

I brought my computer with me, but as I suspected, I did not get online much. I did it because she is my mom and she brought me into the world. It worked out pretty well, actually.

We had a great visit. My husband called every morning and every evening, and when we reunited it was extra special.

Yes I am doing it now for my Father who is ill and I have to see him everyday. I make sure he eats and takes his meds. I take him to his Doctors and have to shop for him.

But he's my Dad and I love doing it for him and I like to spend time with him.

I stopped living for a very long time because that was what made my husband happy. He shut me away from people and decided that he would convince me that I was of no value to the world. I allowed it to go on about 10 years before I became very ill and the doctor treating me realized I was suffering from severe depression and I was only after treatment, able to stand up to him and leave.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.