Do you know any stingy star givers?

Not really. We each have our own ways of thinking. Stingy is under-tipping in restaurants and for services.

Stingy is never going to the movie theater at all because it eventually comes to DVD. Stingy is about being at a restaurant with someone and calculating the bill as shared to the penny or underpaying. There are plenty of ways to note a purse that moths come out when opened.

My grandfather was still driving and owned a car into his late 70's and when he offered to take friends on their errands it was required they offer him gas money, and he would always turn it down. If they did not offer the money, he felt they were trying to take advantage of his good nature, and would not give them a ride again. It was not about the money itself.

It is about courtesy and reciprocation. When your friend of another country asks you to buy and ship something, you are going out of your way to do something. The opportunities of reciprocation are not very often.

You expect some sign of appreciation rather than being taken advantage of. If your friend offered to send money in advance, you would have the opportunity to say "Don't bother. We'll even up when I'm there next, or at your visit here."

Instead, you felt like you are being directed to shop and ship as a subordinate. You did not have the opportunity to demonstrate whether you are stingy or generous. Instead, you were given something between a request and an order.

The customs and cultures of other countries and ethnic groups are different. It may not have been intentional. She was a bit demanding as related to a request without an offer to pay.

The fact that she seemed annoyed points to either a lack of understanding of etiquette or a cultural difference. You can, if you wish, ask her if there is an etiquette/ethnic/cultural difference between you that you are unfamiliar about. The question is also whether her assistance and generosity during your visit has you on the balance scale that you owe her reciprocation.

If she did a lot for you as host, you may owe her social etiquette reciprocation of a favor. The value of the items is a factor as well and how you asked. "No problem at all doing it, but money has been tight lately.

I'd be happy to lay it out." Only if the costs are notable to you as out of line with your relationship. There is no exact answer to what is right, and many younger people are never taught the in's and out's of social etiquette and reciprocation of balancing a friendship.

I explained the whole situation for you to now decide where the issue lies.

Consider the last shipping.. a gift. From now on have her pay for her own (she can use her credit card). She did you wrong the first time (stupid you) if she tries to do your wrong again (stupid her).. Sometimes it's best not to make 'Loans" to friends and family (consider any money you give as a gift).

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