For the past three months my wife has been sending sultry text messages to a guy in PA, she says?

Yep it's cheating, she's maintaining a sneaky relationship with another man, and from what you said is flirting with him and the start and end of each day. It also sounds like she doesn't want to stop as she's saying he's her 'friend' to justify her behaviour. You need to be clear about your feelings with her, as a minimum I'd be keeping her mobile from her for a little while...

I wouldn't say it's cheating per se - it sounds like (no reflection of this decision applies to you) that she is feeling unfulfilled and thus going outside the marital perimeters to get whatever fulfilment she's craving. You have to ask yourself a) how do you rectify the situation so she doesn't feel inclined to do so, b) how much do you value your relationship with your wife and finally c) if it's less than your desire for her to be 'textually' monogamous. (Bad pun/situation, but I couldn't resist...)Hope this shines a few shafts of light on the issue.

Speak to hear about your decision.................................and then she might tell you what she has in mind.

I agree with you! I think it's cheating. Here's a good rule of thumb - anything you wouldn't do with your spouse watching is probably out of bounds.

I think you should address the problem with her and tell her your feelings about it.

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