How can I keep my wife from falling asleep during sex?

My advice is always talk to your spouse. Instead of asking why you weren't having sex, you should have asked if something is bothering her. The manner in which you address something like this is important - its not all about you.

She isn't interested, and she has a reason - you need to find that reason (silly or not) and see if you can properly address it. First off - the cheating thing. It sucks.

I personally would never go back to someone who cheated on me - that's it. Finished. But here it is, you know she cheated, and you chose to stay with her.

You had an out - if she wasn't worth it, then you wouldn't have stayed, right? Keys to marriage, honesty and trust. Either you trust her that the cheating is over, or you don't.

If you don't trust her, you have bigger issues than whether or not you guys are having sex regularly. Maybe she feels this - and it has effected her sexual drive. Remember, women are like 90% brain, 10% loins when it comes to sex, men are the opposite.

If something serious in your relationship is bothering her, shes not apt to want sex. This all could have been spurred by the pregnancy too - it was OK for a while that the trust had to be built up again - but after you started a family together, she wanted that trust to be there. If she doesn't feel it, she might think you have one foot out the door already.

Remember that her world has changed to being all about the baby. Every woman is different with pregnancy and sex. Some can't get enough, some want nothing to do with it, most fall somewhere in-between.

By the way, 1 week after giving birth is foolish for your other partner (which by the way, most women, and men, don't' really like these sorts of comparisons) because of the risk of infection. Anyway - her body is different. She looks great to you, but she feels different - even if shes popped right back into shape.

That takes time to get used to. She may also be simply afraid to get back on the horse, so to speak. It's been so long, she might be insecure and unsure of herself.

Rather than assuming that women prioritize money and your body, perhaps you should consider that you have done something wrong in the relationship. It seems to me that because she doesn't want sex, you are jumping to the worst conclusions about her. She doesn't want to have sex because shes cheating on me, or because shes going to meet someone here.

Shes cheating on me because I don't make enough money. Shes cheating on me because I'm not in the same shape physically that I once was. I mean honestly - if shes a cheater who is only into money and your band, why are you with her?

And consequently, if you don't think she is these things, why are you painting such a bad picture of her to other people. Are you that angry about it? TALK TO HER.

Also I read a study on the effects of children on marriage (peer edited, reviewed) about a year ago, and it did include some information about sex after childbirth. I don't remember the exact statistics - but it was something like 50% of the men and women questioned said they didn't go back into the bedroom with any regularity for 4-6months after birth. Just some food for thought.

From what you've said, I would assume that your wife has probably figured out that you don't trust her or think very highly of her. Cheating sucks, but what you've said makes you look just as flawed - and its the picture you've put out! So I can only imagine the truth of the situation.

If you can't talk to her, and make her understand that men need sex, I'd consider divorce. Sorry about the back. Try to lose some weight.

It usually helps. She sounds like my ex-wife. Every body we knew, was enjoying sex with her, except me!

She came home with STDs twice! If you are not ready for divorce, then just have an affair. I found that there were a lot of women in our situation.

You might meet some wonderful women. I did. Good luck.

You're going to need it.

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