How do I balance how my stepdaughter is disciplined with how I discipline my two biological daughters?

Doesn't sound to me like she is any different from any other 3 year old. My son is 3 andhe doesn't play in his room by himself either lol. Some days I think it would be nice if he would even for half an hour haha but he doesnt.

And because hes my son and I have that responsibility of being his mother, I play with him and at the end of the day am glad that he fills my 5 hours between school and his bedtime Children are a lot of work and require a lot of attention. I understand where your coming from jumping in and trying to be a parent. It must be difficult.

She will always prefer to have her parents play with her than play alone with her toys no matter how cool her toys are. As she gets older, independance will grow. Since she is trying to compete for her daddys attention, I would try make sure she feels secure about you and knows that your not trying to take her daddy away.

Even taking her to the park just you and her and doing things that are special bewteen the two of you will strengthen your bond and she will trust you more. Shes more likely to stop hanging off him and you both if she feels comfortable and feels she doesn't have to compete. ALSo, her father should be supporting you if not disciplining her himself.

That is a huge responsibility and he either needs to take control of the situation or support you in doing so if hes not going to be the disciplinary. Sorry this is so long I just read it again and wanted to add something. When she misbehaves you need to give her a warning and tell her if she continues, she will be going to time out (or whateer method you use) if she continues behavior, follow through and put her in time out.

Make her sit there for 3 minutes. She might cry but after 3 minutes go sit and give her a hug, assure her you still love her but you expect her to listen next time. BE CONSISTANT.

Its the most important thing. Eery time she acts or doesn't listen, give her the warning then the discipline. After a while, she will start listening to you on her own the first time when she realizes you mean business.

This does work trust me! May be tiring t first constantly makingher accountable for her actions but in few days to week she will be listenting good and the house will be more relaxed place.

Sounds like you are experiencing what every mother experiences. It is hard work raising children. I don't really have that much advice because that is what it is like here in our household (1 year old and 2 year old waking up at 6am and being demanding all day long until they go to bed at 7-8pm).

The only difference is they are with me 24 hours a day as I work at home. Children at this age need all the reassurance and love they can get. She has been in childcare all day and she just wants to be with you and her Daddy when she gets home, that's not a lot to ask for really.

This is what parenting is all about, it's not all rosy. It's hard work but rewarding at the same time. Once you have a child there are no more 'sleep ins', no more 'do what I want', you need to be totally selfless when you have your own child.

When I read your message about going to work 8 hours a day then having to deal with your step daughter when you get home, I thought to myself 'My Goodness at least she gets to go to work'.... meaning going to work is a LUXURY compared to having a child with you 24 hours a day (like myself), so you should be happy that you only have to 'parent' part time. Take it from me who use to work 12hr days and had a career for 13 years before I had children.. and I can honestly say that having and raising children is HARDER than having to go to work. I wish you all the best, it's not easy being a step mum.

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