How Do I Deal With Stepkids, That Lie & Steal My Stuff. And The Teenager Always Calling Me Names?

First off, let me say Kudos to your husband for standing behind you. So many times this situation ends up playing the spouses against each other. This is a huge blessing for your marriage.

The 10 & 16 year old are apparently used to being able to get away with bad behavior and at those ages they are not going to take kindly to discipline. Maintaining consistency is key. If the issue is that they are not being respectful of other people's things....maybe they need to feel the loss of their things.

Every time you find one of yours or the other children's items in their room...they loose an item of either yours or your husbands choice until you feel they have shown they deserve it back. You may end up clearing out their entire room before they get it. If you have the means, you could set up hidden cameras to capture the act on tape.

Hard to lie about what can be proven! The main thing is that you and your husband continue to work as a team and support each other. The children are ... more.

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