How do I get along with my family at holiday celebrations?

I do not share the same values and ideaology as most of my family members. Some of my relatives make very poor choices and are hard to respect. How do I enjoy family get-togethers?

Asked by Rubilocks 61 months ago Similar questions: family holiday celebrations Society > Holidays.

Don't judge Boy, I know what you mean. It is so hard to get along with a mix of people with different values. I started out hoping to have happy parties and gatherings....nothing fancy, just a well planned buffet, holiday tunes, etc.One lady showed up with a LONG video of her daughters' wedding, turned off my holiday tunes and captured the rest of the guests in the living room and made them watch every boring minute.

She also had photo albums. Other times my husbands herd would take over the entire dining room table, screaming at each other over a stupid card game and getting totally drunk. I used to get upset until I changed my OWN attitude about all of them.

Now I just let them all be themselves. The drunks get drunk, the idiots fight, the grouchy complain. I just crank up my tunes and enjoy the thought that they soon will all so home...and enjoy the company of the ones I really like.

A glass of wine or 2 Excedrin work wonders. I guess I just stopped judging their choice of lifestyle or mate, put on a warm smile and gave thanks that we had higher standards. Relax and have a wonderful Holiday.

It is harder to embrace than it is to dismiss, but I believe it is worth it. First, you should keep in mind, as you question suggests, that you meet those relatives only infrequently. Second, you should keep in mind that no system of values is inherently better than any other--that is, as long as it does not harm others.As long as neither tries to change forcibly the other's mind, I see no reason why values should prevent you from enjoying each other's company.

Finally, when it comes to poor choices, you can try to remind yourself that no one is flawless, including yourself, and that instead of criticizing, family members should support and help one another. So, it seems to me that the key to being able to enjoy your relatives' company on those rare occassions is to be non-judgemental. Perhaps once you stop focusing on their deficiencies, new ways of appreciating them will surface.

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Stay away Stay as far away from them as possible. Resist the temptation to join in on topics that are contraversal to you. Nobody ever said you have to get along with everyone..

Find something harmless to talk about subjects that people do sometimes have passion about, such as favorite television show, beauty tips, reasons why you don't like your cell phone provider, reason why you love/hate computers. While you do this, you're talking about something, without really getting angry because the subject is not too important. That technique helps me when I'm around folks who I count down getting away from..

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