How do I get my 10 month old to sleep in his crib without me having to put him asleep in my arms?

I tried the let him cry it out method and it doesn't work. When I hold him or lay down with him he falls asleep and can be asleep for hours on my chest, but once I place him gently in the crib he wakes up screaming. How can I fix this?

I want my son to be able to sleep in his own bed without having to put him to sleep. Asked by taz0485 20 months ago Similar questions: 10 month sleep crib put asleep arms Health > Conditions & Diseases.

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I know its hard because I have been there too. Here's what I did. I read everything about the Ferber method sleep-baby-sleep.com/ferber-method.htm and then did it my way anyhow.

I put my baby in her crib and I held her hand through the crib bars until she fell asleep. I was lying on the floor next to her crib & sneaked out of the room once she was asleep. Did this for three days in a row.

On the fourth day, I put her down and did not hold her hand. I stood in the doorway next to her crib and ssh'ed (is that a word) her until she quieted down. I did not go back to hold her hand.

She eventually fell asleep. Did this for three days again. Then I stopped hanging in the doorway.

I would leave her bedroom door open, but I let her cry. The first time it went on for 6 minutes (which was way less time than what we used to go through before I started my "ferber" program). I was so tempted to go into her room, but I did not.

This is the key to the whole thing. If you give in, the baby has you right where he wants you. He will learn what to do to get his way.

You have to "break him," if you will. Every night it was less and less crying until she realized that there was no need to cry. And yes, if after she fell asleep at any point in the night I heard her cry, I would jump up out of bed, but I didn't necessarily go into her room.

I waited outside to see if it was a real cry or just her moving about in the crib. If I felt she really was crying over "something," I did go in and on those rare instances it was a dirty diaper. Good luck and persevere.

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2 Well, let me say I don't buy into this Dr. Spock philosophy about putting a kid in his crib and letting him cry himself asleep alone in the dark. If you think about how mankind evolved, and if you look at how primates and other animals raise their young, the young is always in contact with the mother or not far away from her. If not with their mother, then with fathers, aunts, uncles, big brothers/sisters, etc.Think about any primitive people.

Did American Indians put their babies in a separate tee-pee to go to sleep? Did cavemen put their kids in a separate cave to sleep?No. Entire families slept together, both for protection as well as for comfort.

The English apparently started this tradition of not showing children too much love and attention and sending them off to their beds in some distance wing of a dusty English mansion away from the adults. Even though this tradition is only about 150 years old, you get it from everyone - that children should be put to sleep alone in the dark in a separate room. Some people think this is done for the convenience of the parents to have sex without the child being present.

In any event, I don't see any problem with having the child fall asleep in your arms. I don't see a problem having the child sleep in your room with you. He just wants comforting.

I think you will have a more well-adjusted and less anti-social child by being with him as much as possible.

Well, let me say I don't buy into this Dr. Spock philosophy about putting a kid in his crib and letting him cry himself asleep alone in the dark. If you think about how mankind evolved, and if you look at how primates and other animals raise their young, the young is always in contact with the mother or not far away from her. If not with their mother, then with fathers, aunts, uncles, big brothers/sisters, etc.Think about any primitive people.

Did American Indians put their babies in a separate tee-pee to go to sleep? Did cavemen put their kids in a separate cave to sleep?No. Entire families slept together, both for protection as well as for comfort.

The English apparently started this tradition of not showing children too much love and attention and sending them off to their beds in some distance wing of a dusty English mansion away from the adults. Even though this tradition is only about 150 years old, you get it from everyone - that children should be put to sleep alone in the dark in a separate room. Some people think this is done for the convenience of the parents to have sex without the child being present.

In any event, I don't see any problem with having the child fall asleep in your arms. I don't see a problem having the child sleep in your room with you. He just wants comforting.

I think you will have a more well-adjusted and less anti-social child by being with him as much as possible.

3 I'm not a 'Spock guy', but I did parent two little ones and believe in...earplugs...The baby has Learned to get the 'comfort' he wants by annoying you...This child will probably ALWAYS get what "comforts" him by annoying you,Since it has worked so well since the beginning of time (his time)...This is the beginning of some nightmarish teen age years - it's your choice...I vote for earplugs...And, I strongly recommend parents stand their ground and never give in...The time will come when a child Learns to Reason for their wants and needs...That is way more fun... For everyone...After all, that's basically what goes on in "The Real World"...Ask yourself the question "Am I properly preparing my child for reality outside the home?...God Bless...

I'm not a 'Spock guy', but I did parent two little ones and believe in...earplugs...The baby has Learned to get the 'comfort' he wants by annoying you...This child will probably ALWAYS get what "comforts" him by annoying you,Since it has worked so well since the beginning of time (his time)...This is the beginning of some nightmarish teen age years - it's your choice...I vote for earplugs...And, I strongly recommend parents stand their ground and never give in...The time will come when a child Learns to Reason for their wants and needs...That is way more fun... For everyone...After all, that's basically what goes on in "The Real World"...Ask yourself the question "Am I properly preparing my child for reality outside the home?...God Bless...

OlneyFalcon replied to post #2: 4 Dan, I rarely disagree with you, but in this case we're dealing with an infant...Infants need a lot of sleep, often 16 hours, or so, per day...It is impossible for families to join an infant for their sleep needs...It is likely that when primitive peoples were raising children, the prioritieswere quite a bit different...Staying alive probably trumped sleep needs most of the time...Putting a baby down for a nap IS a display of love, very much like 'we' do for our spouses when we do one of 'their' chores just to be nice... Love doesn'thave to be all gooey... You may be right although I don't think this has to be a right or wrong deal...There's plenty of ways to skin a cat, as they used to say...My kids turned out fine, my Grandson who gets doted on at home is a worldclass brat in his house, and a perfect angel in mine...Go figure...

Dan, I rarely disagree with you, but in this case we're dealing with an infant...Infants need a lot of sleep, often 16 hours, or so, per day...It is impossible for families to join an infant for their sleep needs...It is likely that when primitive peoples were raising children, the prioritieswere quite a bit different...Staying alive probably trumped sleep needs most of the time...Putting a baby down for a nap IS a display of love, very much like 'we' do for our spouses when we do one of 'their' chores just to be nice... Love doesn'thave to be all gooey... You may be right although I don't think this has to be a right or wrong deal...There's plenty of ways to skin a cat, as they used to say...My kids turned out fine, my Grandson who gets doted on at home is a worldclass brat in his house, and a perfect angel in mine...Go figure...

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