How do we ask for money instead of gifts for wedding gift?

So rude and tacky. Can't believe the answers above say it's perfectly fine. Just because you've seen it done and it's becoming more common, it's still the worst of bad manners.

If I got a wedding invitation and the couple had to nerve to ask for money (or even mention gifts) I would not attend and the couple would get nothing from me. If it happened to be a family member or close friend, I would actually call them and tell them how I feel about their request. Gifts are at the discretion of the giver.

PERIOD!

Because you didn't mention putting this in the invitation I will joyfully assume that you mean how to tell people who ask you (your parents, bridal party etc....) what you'd like. The best way is to be gracious and say something along the lines of "Oh, don't worry about that...we just want you to come celebrate our special day with us." You know and they know that you're just being polite!

If they let it go at that then hopefully they'll get the unspoken 'we'd like money' but if they ask again you can say "Well to tell you the truth we've had our eye on and are hoping to be able to afford it after the wedding." That tells the asker what you'd do with the $$ and they'll feel move involved - even if you don't actually plan to spend it on the! This is just a general scenario and you can fit the wording to best fit the person/situation.

Make sure your parents/attendants etc... know so they can tell the same thing.

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