What is wedding gift protocol? Does the shower gift count as the gift? Do you give $ at the wedding too?

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Here is the Deal, in my opinion... First of all you should give what you can afford, period. Second of all, the shower gift doesn't count for the wedding as well. It would be proper to give a wedding gift or wedding $$ or some sort.

That being said. I really believe, whole heartedly, that you should spend what you can afford and give from the heart. Now, I know all brides and grooms wouldn't agree with that, however, the original purpose of gift giving is to give from the heart.

I know we have gotten into the whole registry thing and with that comes over spending because sometimes/often there aren't reasonable things on the registry. You should spend according to your own financial situation and not based on their registry demands. Furthermore, if money is an issue, which I am assuming it is because you want to use the shower gift as the wedding gift, you might consider determining a total dollar amount that you want to spend, take 1/4 of that for the shower gift and 3/4 of it for the wedding gift and then shop based on that.

That way you aren't spending extra but you are buying a gift for the shower and the wedding. When I got married we put in our invitation that, "...your presence is gift enough. " Regardless, almost everyone bought us gifts but they spent what they wanted, bought something that was special to them and then a few didn't bring anything.

We were thrilled with everything and nothing. We really wanted our friends and family to just be there and enjoy themselves. I would like to think that everyone is like this but I know from experience that some people are all about the gifts..

In general... The shower gift is separate from the wedding gift. Quite often, people who attend both the shower and the wedding will choose to give a gift from the wedding registry at the shower and money as a gift at the wedding. That isn't a "set in stone" rule, as someone not going to the wedding shower could also buy something from the wedding registry.

When my husband and I got married, I was given many things from our wedding registry at the shower. Relatives and friends from out of town who did not come out for the wedding sent gifts from the registry, but a few sent a check. At our wedding, the "gift table" had two gifts on it and a large stack of cards.

Most of the weddings I've been to have been the same way. It is acceptable to give a large gift at the shower as both a shower and wedding gift. If you want to give the couple something very special from their registry, this is OK to do.

If your budget is modest, don't feel obligated to spend more than you can on gifts or on giving a generous check. The amount you spend should be determined not only by the closeness you have with the bride, groom, or both, but also by your own budget. You'd probably want to do more for, say, your best friend on the planet than you would for a college friend you've only spoken to a few times in the past ten years.

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No they are seperate gifts. Typically the shower gift would be for the bride. Something like lingere, a photo album, something personal.

The wedding gift would be for the couple or it could be money. It is a lot but weddings are very expensive. Have fun!

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Depends where you live A lot of wedding protocol depends on what part of the country you are from. Here in New York being invited to a wedding is a big expense. First there is the shower gift (and it better not be a cheapie) and then the wedding gift.

Wedding gifts are money in an envelope. The guest tries to figure what the cost of the meal was with some extra. The last few weddings we attended we gave between $175-$200.

When checking with others at our table everyone was giving about the same. A close relative would give about $500. I know this will sound unreal to many of you, but this is how it is here.

The average wedding here has a cocktail hour with a huge buffet and unlimited drinks. The food is enough to fill you before the actual dinner. Then the sit down dinner where you are given a choice of three main courses.

Usually a band and lately the reception ends with each guest given the Sunday paper and bagels as you leave. Plus there is always the wedding favor for each guest. Most of my family live in Texas and weddings there are much different.

Some give money at the reception but I saw most people walk in with wrapped gifts and put them on the gift table. Also the receptions were not as over the top as here. They would of course give a shower gift and another gift at the wedding.In general my opinion was if you were invited to a wedding in Texas you would look forward to it while here in New York you say, "Oh s**t we are invited to their wedding"!

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Let your budget & closeness to the couple be your guide If you can afford shower & wedding gifts do it I've always felt that $ at the wedding was in lieu of a wrapped gift. Only $ I give at weddings is for the traditional "dollar dance". If you can only afford one gift, fine; don't sweat it...enjoy the wedding instead .

Most of the weddings I have been invited to are for people at our church and I have always brought something mid-priced from the registry to the shower and just a card to the wedding. After reading all of the other responses I am wondering if I have bad etiquette, but when I got married I only expected guests to bring 1 gift per family (either to the shower or to the wedding if they couldn't attend the shower) and I believe most did. I don't think it would be in bad taste to bring just one nice gift to the shower or wedding and a card (with or without money).

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Should I send gift to shower? " "if I host a wedding shower am I required to give a gift as well?

Is it customary to give a wedding gift if you are a member of the wedding party.

I have been invited for a bridal shower but not the wedding for a first cousin. Is a shower gift necessary?

I want to give a check as a wedding gift. Do I send it before the wedding to the couple?

I was invited to a wedding shower, not attending shower. Am attending wedding. Should I send gift to shower?

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