How to get over extreme nervousness/anxiety?

It is just part of your make up. You may suffer some generalized anxiety and it is amplified when you are placed in a position of stress. Many people suffer nervousness when speaking in front of others.It is fairly common.

When your anxiety affects your daily life is when you need to do something. You may have a genetic predisposition to anxiety.Is there any in your family, eg parents, grand parents? The best way to beat it is to expose youreself more and more over time and public speaking becomes normal.

The fear of doing it can be worse then actually doing it. Take a course in public speaking, it would be most rewarding and help you with job prospects etc. So exposure, expsoure and further exposure gets you over it! Jexebellion 13 months ago.

Chowfan is very smart and knows what he's talking about. I just want to add that as time goes on, our chemistry changes. Maybe the chemical levels in your brains are being altered, just as your hormonal balance changes.

Many have benefited by the use of a mild medication for anxiety and panic. It might be worth investigating. Just like people can develop diabetes in their later years, so can they may possibly develop panic disorder if their chemistry is altered due to the natural course of their own biology.

I actually have a different perspective from the other two people. It sounds like you are talking about anxiety in a specific context, rather than generalized anxiety disorder. From my experience, there are two very effective way to curb the type of acute anxiety that you're experiencing: (1) exposure, and (2) awareness of your thoughts causing you to feel nervous.

Exposure is simple; just keep speaking in front of groups. It WILL get better. Some things in life you just need to brute force like this.

Your anxiety reaction will gradually diminish as you're in the same situation over and over again, and soon you'll be finding new confidence. Awareness of thoughts is trickier, but it can lead to quicker-acting and more powerful results, even without much exposure. This approach is used in cognitive therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy; talking to a counselor or getting a self-help book rooted in these approaches may be helpful.

There are also some good older self-help books that are not rooted in psychology (one by Dale Carnegie comes to mind, I can't remember the name) about public speaking. The key of a cognitive approach though is to identify what you are thinking right in the moment that you become nervous, and also identify your thoughts in the moments BEFORE you become nervous. You might be thinking things like: "Oh wow, this is my big moment.

If I screw up, these people will think I'm an idiot. I'll make a fool out of myself. " and similar thoughts.It is these thoughts, not the situation, that is making you feel nervous.

You start focusing on the idea of failure and your brain and body start reacting to the failure and embarassment so suddenly your body activates the stress response. You don't need to have these thoughts--catch them as early as you can and set them aside. Just focus on what you want to do.

Sometimes capturing thoughts on paper, writing them down, takes away their power over you. Good luck!

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