I broke up with my boyfriend 2 1/2 weeks ago, but I want him back. How can I get him back?

Break up and then try to make it up will never give you a feeling of healthy relastionship. This is called a childish act and in your case you seem to be a well grown up. Take firm decision and always stick to your decision as flexibility never plays a good role in one's life.

You need to make sure can deal with that first or you will just break up again. People who have this problem usually have an insecurity within themselves caused by something else. If that is true, figure it out and deal with that first.

If you really do still love each other, facing this problem first will not cost you a future relationship but only strengthen it in the end. You can even tell him, you are working on this problem and would like to take a break while you do, but you do love him and hope you can renew your relationship when you know you are ready and won't hurt him again. If he really loves you he will agree and understand.

True love survives a lot. Good Luck! Communication and talking about what the real problem is works the best always!

Think the answer through for a day or two and be very honest with yourself. Why do I want to go back to him? Again, think it through.

Again be very honest. There are two pretty common answers to the first. He had to be in control - or - I want to be in controlCan you both give up with the Control Buttons?

If not, you don't need to be together. Work on your own control issues and let him deal with his. Second question time.

The most common answer is truthfully, I don't like being alone. I need him to make me happy. And that is the wrong answer too.

Find out how to make yourself happy, you do not "need" anyone else to complete you or make you happy, you can and should be a happy well round person first, and that will make both of you happy. If he doesn't answer your messages, he recognizes what you need to recognize, You both need time to look inward or perhaps elsewhere.

Well for one thing I doubt your really "In Love" if only with him for 3 months. Your gonna hate hearing that from me but Im just being real. Anyway I could be wrong, but heres what you do.

Go up to him and tell him exactly what you just wrote to us. Fall on the sword and just give in to the total honest truth. Don't play games, the whole power struggle "what should I say so he likes me" thing is total cheese.

If he really "Loves" you then the game isnt needed. If after falling on the sword he still plays a game then you need to roll out. The relationship may have just been a building block in your life and it may be destiny that it ends here.

Thats my advice. Oh and just for info, I tell this to my girls too, Football players are very self absorbed people in high school. I know because I was on the team.

All they care about is arm candy kidd. You can doubt me here if you like because Im wrong sometimes, but just know I said it. Good luck girl.

In my experience, so long as you haven't gone/don't go too overboard about the break up, if he was into you, he'll usually come back around, dating can be so frustrating, you were right to stand up and say he wasn't making enough time for you, if you let him think about what you said you never know in a few weeks he might come back around. If he's not replying, he just might not know what to do at the moment, and you need to give him a little space to decide. Hope it works out for you, best wishes.

Why don't you start by telling him all that you have said here.....apologize for jumping the gun and let him know you want to be there for him as well as support him. You need also keep in mind that he has to sacrifice and support you as much as you sacrifice and support him.

You should try harder girl. To regain his trust again, it takes time. One thing for sure that I know about men is that they put their career in first prority.

When they don't have time for you because of their work or your case - his game, he's equally frustrated . All he want at this point is your support, not blaming and complaining.

C. Cohen12,i hate to be the one to tell you this, but a three month relationship isn't completely stable yet, anyway. But, beyond that, when you break up with him and want him back... if you ask him he may not accept it.

Because, once you break up with him you've shown him that you're not interested. Guys tend to be extremely fast at recovering from relationships -- and the shorter the easier -- so, you could try to get him to come back to you, there's no hurt in asking and trying... but in my opinion once it's over it's over, at least for a while. I recomend not trying to make him jealous.

You should be completely honest with him about your feelings, if he'll listen. If not, keep trying. Everything will work itself out in the end.

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Sorry to say, but you may not be able to get him back. He may feel that you don't respect what he does and that you don't trust him. He may also think that you are too selfish for his taste.

I could be wrong, so don't take my word as law, okay? Depending on what you are putting in the text messages, he may think of that for the next time he sees you, but let him come to you. Try to be friendly when you see him, but don't let him know that your pining for him.

If he brings up the relationship, then talk about how much you miss him and how sorry you are. I hope that I did not upset you about your lost love, but its an honest opinion.

First of all... you should have. It's horrible in a relationship to only think of yourself. He's doing something, and you should have supported him, and been his #1 fan.

Just like he would have been, or should have been to your enjoyments. A good relationship has one thing going on... teamwork. I've been with my wife now for 11 years, since our Junior year in high school.

She's the only one I've ever dated, and we're a better team than anything else. The problem most people have is very selfish. They want the attention on them, then they forget the teamwork aspect, and that's why relationships fail.By you being frustrated because he had no time for YOU, you broke off the relationship feeling as if he was ignoring you for football and wrestling.

I played football in high school, and am an avid fan of it today, and the work that goes into it is mindnumbing. You have seriously no idea on what he's going through mentally, having to learn playbooks, formations, terminology, form and other aspects of football can be more mentally draining then physically draining. Best way to get him back is to be honest with yourself and him, and iron out the wrinkles.

Go into the conversation like an adult, because you acted like a spoiled brat on the last time. Remember that he has feelings, if he loves you still, he'll forgive you, but if he doesn't, you'll have to change yourself and be more supportive of your boyfriend, but most importantly your teammate. Think of it this way, and you'll never falter again.

You are too young to give a sh*t about him. You can do better.

Stop trying. He'll wonder what happened and try getting you back!

I agree with the majority of posters here who say that you need to take a closer look at yourself first. I know your feelings right now are very strong, and you don't think you have ever or will ever feel this way about anyone ever again... Right. Well, that is how it feels at first.

You have a lot of issues to sort through before you deside he is good enough for you to take back. You are young with a whole life ahead of you... Just remember that you can achieve anything you set your mind to, in relationships, life, and a future career. Don't let this one guy determine who you are.

If he is not answering your messages, he is not that into you anymore, or he is just messing with your emotions. Also, not to hurt you in any way, but as a fact for you to keep in mind... 2 and 1/2 weeks is long enough for him to have found his next girlfriend... These are all things you need to consider. I would send him one last messege... and make it clear that this is your last attempt to try and exsplain your actions and feelings for him... If he does not answer, LET IT GO... He wasn't good enough for all you had to offer any way if he just wants to play games.

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Do not do anymore. Do not call him or send messages. If he wants you he will be back.

Take this time to find out what it is you really need. Sometimes the "loss" is more important and people lose sight of the "hurt. " Good luck.

Or are you trying to believe what you want to believe. If he does he should be the one who'll make time or an effort to have at least some time off for you. Granted that you already made the move by calling and leaving him messages to no avail then that's enough.

If he really loves you and realize that he do, he will be the one to pursue you and not you. Maybe he just make up excuses of being busy so he could make a way to leave you with your dignity intact. Assess everything in your relationship with him and it's about time to have some reality check.

First of all start with not trying to get him back..ease back into his life by just being his friend..ask him how he is doing and how practice went..call txt or email..stop thinking about what you want and focus on how to get your man back. You have to realize that this is almost like a competitive game and instead of you wanting him to spend more time with you why don't you ask him if you could watch him practice and you promise to be quiet or go to see him play..when he feels no pressure and becomes more comfortable with you then you can start communications with him on how you feel about him and that you want to try and rebuild your relationship..remember, patients is key.

There is something to remember when it comes to love : Love is to absence as wind is to fire. A little bit of wind puts the fire out but a lot of wind just makes the fire worse. If you leave things alone, and let things work out by themselves , who knows he may be wanting to do the same thing.

Just give it some time.

Well you go up to him and ask him if he will give you a second chance.

If you guys aren't back together yet, then you need to let it go. Obviously he doesn't want to get back together if he read your messages and didn't reply to them. And if he was too busy with you in the summer, he's definitely gonna be too busy for you during URL1 maybe you need to try and get him out of your mind because if he's not trying to make it work then you shouldn't be breaking your neck and going out of your way to try and make it work.

And plus 3 months isn't that long anyway.

Give hi some space, and if it's meant to be he will contact you. Men's don't enjoy having a woman if she seems to needy. Let him do the chasing.

Good Luck! Stop worrying!

Give him time . Maybe a friendly call or text to see how he is . Do not push men dislike pushy woman.

Just let him know you are there for him . Let me know how you make out Good Luck!

I am sorry but if you did still love each other then you would still be together...love expects nothing and gets everything in return, you have your whole life ahead of you to love again, and you will no matter how you feel now. You get over relationship breakups so much quicker at your age, be happy for the time that you shared with him and move on.

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BABY, i'M REAL SORRY ABOUT THIS JERK. PLease you are younge and no doubt a beautiful person- don't let a guy call shots with you- don't beg. You can do with out the hassle and believe it or not a guy will want to call you and be with you because he really likes you.Be yourself and don't forget to take the trash out!

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. I guess you shouldve understand him..you know,he got his own life too..its not like he's going to spend his everyday with you,he needs to have his self-fulfillment too..and if you love him..DONT COMPLAIN..its not good,if he doesn't have time then why don't you just visit him during his football training then? It means a lot..Im sure..remember this "try to listen and keep an open mind"... it helps for couples and other people who love each other...ITS a HEALTHY way...and one more..dont complain,instead be thankful that he loved you,the best way he knows how.

I also wrote a hub about this. Ten ways to get him back. Hope that helps.

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