I got offered a promotion that means more time at work. My girlfriend already says I spend too much time there. What should I do?

If the promotion is important to you and important to your career, it makes sense to take it. How serious is your relationship? A lot of people in this situation ask themselves how they'd feel about rejecting the promotion if their relationship ended shortly after.

Also, if you don't take the promotion, are other things likely to open up? Keep in mind that sometimes people who don't take promotions are slowly demoted and then shown the door. I'd try to have an honest talk with her in the hopes of making her understand.

It all comes down to what YOU will get more personal fulfillment from: More time at work, more money and presumably more responsibility and challenges - - - or - - - Status quo, with your current level of compensation, same responsibility and free time away from the office If you love your job and look forward to coming into the office every day, it seems like it would be hard to say no. If your job is simply 40-60 hours of unhappy servitude in exchange for a paycheck, spending more time at the office might not be worth any amount of money, assuming you are alraedy surviving on what you make now. Before you make your decision, there are a couple of important factors to consider: If you turn down a promotion, it is likely that when the next promotion comes around you may not be considered for it.

Saying "no" to a promotion, especially if you don't have a strong reason, signals a lack of ambition to your employer and they likely won't forget this. Depending on your situation, your promotion doesn't necessarily have to mean more time at work. If you are being offered a promotion and have misgivings about the time commitment, be frank and discuss it with your employer.

If you are already working a lot of overtime, it can be counterproductive to spend even more time at work, as sooner or later you will run down. A smart boss will realize this so it is possible that your promotion will simply recognize your current level of commitment and isn't necessarily going to bury you. If you are currently an hourly employee and your promotion would turn you into a salary employee, figuring out how many hours you will be working each week is a vital component of deciding how much money you need to make in your new position.

For example, if you get a 20% raise above your currently hourly rate, but loose access to overtime pay, you could actually end up taking home less money than you did as an hourly employee who was paid time and half for extra hours. Thus, knowing your expected time commitment is the only way you can figure out if a salary is worth taking. Note: None of my above comments mentioned your girlfriend.In my opinion, if she is only a "girlfriend" and not a "wife", she shouldn't get a lot of input on this decision.

The reason I say this is that since you have not decided to make a lifelong commitment to her, it is entirely possible that she won't be in the picture in 6 weeks, 6 months or 6 years. Your career decisions, though, can affect you for a VERY long time. For example, if your promotion comes with a 20% raise and you turn it down, how many years will you have to work in your current position to get to that level of compensation using only infrequent "cost of living" raises in our troubled economy?

Also, when you apply for a new job, employers want to see a history of increasing responsibility at your previous jobs and they also often ask you about your salary history.

I think that if you realy love her thatyou should do want she want but if she love you she let you take it so look in your heart and see what you thinks is best.

In this economy, a lot of people are looking for work and bypassing this promotion could mean that you may be out of work. I once did this because I didn't want the added the responsibility, two days later they announced the cut of several positions and there I was. Maybe it's not that you spend too much time at work, she may just feel as though you don't spend enough time with her.

I work full time then some, and go to school full time, while raising two small children. Why? Because I have to.

However, I do make sure that I spend quality time with my children. Try reprioritizing your time when you are home from work, this may help solve the problem. Bottom line, if you need the money and want to advance in your current field you should really consider this promotion.

Talk to her, you may be able to come to a compromise. Good luck and congrats on being offered the promotion.

Well there are a few ways that you can look at this: 1) Talk to your girlfriend and explain the situation: Let her know that while it means more money it also means more time away and that you need to know how she feels about it. Make sure that you tell her that you want the money to help better you current situation as well as your future with her. That might make it a little easier.2)Decide weather money or your relationship is more important.

That should give you the answer as to what to do if your girlfriend tells you not to accept the position even if you want it. Hopefully your girlfriend will understand what the position means to you and help to make the decision easier for you. Good luck.

Sorry to sound blunt but my point is a promotion will benefit you and her. Maybe you will see her less but that doesn't mean you won't have quality time for each other. Perhaps the time you spend together will become even better as you advance in your career and become successful.

Im not saying become a selfish work obsessed spouse, but your job is still very important. Not only for you but also for a current or future family you might have or plan to have. However since you already ask this question and seem so concerned about your girlfriend I am sure you are not a selfish type.

You sound like you actually care about her very much and you should let her know that you don't want her to get the wrong idea but you think this is the right move for the future. Make it up to her by arranging times you spend together such as weekends and dinners or maybe even lunches. Perhaps promise her a little trip that the two of you can go on together.

Quality time and a healthy relationship should not end because of a promotion. Take the best of the two worlds, take your relationship to the next level and keep working hard at your job. Make sure however that every promise you do give to your girlfriend you keep, otherwise your dead meat my friend!

Good luck and congratulations on the promotion!

I think that you getting a promotion is wondergul considering these days it is very difficult to even get a job. I think that your girlfriend need to be more understanding however,perhaps you can compromise and make yor time with her special . If you can not make the time to be with her perhaps the relationship is not the right one for either of you.

Does the promotion mean more money for you? Or is it a title only? That also is a consideration.

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