Im going to become a cop but my boyfriend who I might eventually want to marry is a convicted felon? what should I do?

I have dreams of getting involved in criminal justice whether it be a police officer or not but I was dating a convicted felon and I flat out asked the chief of police (old family friend) and he told me to either get rid of him or find a different career interest because you may get away with it for awhile but once someone finds out who you're with and recognizes their name it impacts you greatly others on the force will find you untrustworthy and they will question your motives....they question if you're lying for your boyfriend, helping him hide because you know the ropes and all kinds of ridiculous things. I know that it's not right and it shouldn't matter who you're with. That came straight out of the Chief of Police's mouth so i'm passing it on....It's your decision and if you love him and are truly happy with him you don't have to give him up...just mind what your coworkers may think and be willing to have certain consequences while in your job.

Like I said it's not right for them to discriminate but at the same time with certain jobs you take certain things are expected of you....and being with a felon isn't looked upon very highly. I have dreams of getting involved in criminal justice whether it be a police officer or not but I was dating a convicted felon and I flat out asked the chief of police (old family friend) and he told me to either get rid of him or find a different career interest because you may get away with it for awhile but once someone finds out who you're with and recognizes their name it impacts you greatly others on the force will find you untrustworthy and they will question your motives....they question if you're lying for your boyfriend, helping him hide because you know the ropes and all kinds of ridiculous things. I know that it's not right and it shouldn't matter who you're with.

That came straight out of the Chief of Police's mouth so i'm passing it on....It's your decision and if you love him and are truly happy with him you don't have to give him up...just mind what your coworkers may think and be willing to have certain consequences while in your job. Like I said it's not right for them to discriminate but at the same time with certain jobs you take certain things are expected of you....and being with a felon isn't looked upon very highly. You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars.

If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question. Get a new boyfriend! There is no way you want a headache or a risk like that.

(I am assuming you mean a typical, serious felony, not something only technically a felony, which would be bad enough). Convicted felons who do not go on to commit more crimes are few and far between, especially if they are young enough to have girlfriends young enough to be starting careers. You don't need an albatros around your neck.

There are plenty of guys around with no criminal record at all, let alone a felony conviction. You would be looking for trouble if you ever want any government job at all. Get a new boyfriend!

There is no way you want a headache or a risk like that. (I am assuming you mean a typical, serious felony, not something only technically a felony, which would be bad enough). Convicted felons who do not go on to commit more crimes are few and far between, especially if they are young enough to have girlfriends young enough to be starting careers.

You don't need an albatros around your neck. There are plenty of guys around with no criminal record at all, let alone a felony conviction. You would be looking for trouble if you ever want any government job at all.

You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars. If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question. From experience, I can tell you that you can be a cop, or you can date/marry a felon, but you cannot do both.

Getting hired as a cop is tough, and while things have improved in the last 15 years or so, it's still even tougher for a woman to be taken seriously and get hired as a cop. There are dozens of applicants for every opening, and police departments can not only afford to be choosy, but they HAVE to be choosy. Law enforcement is very much an "us vs. them" culture.

Felons definitely are 'them,' and if you're involved with one, then you become suspect by association. Even if you were hired, your co-workers will not trust you, and you cannot succeed as a cop without their support. It may not seem 'right' that what you do in your personal life should affect your job, but being a cop is not just any job.

It's incredibly tough on your personal life - in fact, it takes over your personal life. Cops have among the highest divorce rates, and the highest suicide rates. You're going to have to decide how much you're willing to give up for the job.

From experience, I can tell you that you can be a cop, or you can date/marry a felon, but you cannot do both. Getting hired as a cop is tough, and while things have improved in the last 15 years or so, it's still even tougher for a woman to be taken seriously and get hired as a cop. There are dozens of applicants for every opening, and police departments can not only afford to be choosy, but they HAVE to be choosy.

Law enforcement is very much an "us vs. them" culture. Felons definitely are 'them,' and if you're involved with one, then you become suspect by association. Even if you were hired, your co-workers will not trust you, and you cannot succeed as a cop without their support.

It may not seem 'right' that what you do in your personal life should affect your job, but being a cop is not just any job. It's incredibly tough on your personal life - in fact, it takes over your personal life. Cops have among the highest divorce rates, and the highest suicide rates.

You're going to have to decide how much you're willing to give up for the job. You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars. If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question.

You could still get a police officer job, but being in a relationship with a convicted felon could hurt your chances of getting hired. Your criminal history is more important, but who you associate with can also be considered. What crime(s) your boyfriend was convicted of, how long ago this happened, and how good a candidate you are otherwise might be taken into account.

Getting police officer jobs can be very competitive. Being in a relationship with a convicted felon could raise a red flag. You could still get a police officer job, but being in a relationship with a convicted felon could hurt your chances of getting hired.

Your criminal history is more important, but who you associate with can also be considered. What crime(s) your boyfriend was convicted of, how long ago this happened, and how good a candidate you are otherwise might be taken into account. Getting police officer jobs can be very competitive.

Being in a relationship with a convicted felon could raise a red flag. You can leave an optional "tip" with Mahalo's virtual currency, Mahalo Dollars. If you are asking a difficult question that might require some research, or if you'd like a wide variety of feedback, a higher tip often leads to more answers to your question.