Is it cheating if you were separated with intentions of divorcing only to realize that you?

If it was just after separating, before the two of you had made your intentions totally clear, then I could see how it might be perceived as cheating. If on the other hand, you were separated with both of you planning on divorce as your next step, I wouldn't see how that would be cheating.At that point you would have both most likely been considering yourselves as "single", just without the piece of paper. If this was the case, I don't see it as cheating.

I agree with manic monday, it's not cheating if you were seperated at the time.

If you were separated then no, I would not consider it cheating. I have been in this predicament before, the less your better half knows, the easier it will be to move on! The only exception would be if a child was created during the separation, they would have the right to know this before moving on!

Yes, it IS cheating. I'd reconcile w/ my spouse.

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