Is it possible to be gay and homophobic?

Being repulsed by watching others make out doesn't make you fearful of it (phobic implies fear). Not wanting to be touched by someone doesn't necessarily mean you don't want it on some level either. It would be wise to discover through counseling why being touched repulses you.In spite of your decision to identify yourself as gay, your body may not agree.

When straight men are repulsed by women it is a common consideration that that must mean they are gay. But I don't believe that is the only answer. What defines "being gay" for you?

More gay people I know are discovering that their definition of "being" or "not being" any particular sexual orientation is very limiting. Now they just identify themselves as "sexual" and find even more freedom than before. How we define ourselves in private is personal.

How society defines us is impossible to control. Your issues appear to focus on sexual interpretation and expressions. CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) is a valuable technique.

It's worth pursuing and shouldn't be prejudiced by sexual labeling.

Yup. Ever seen American Beauty? :) According to what I've read, cognitive therapy can be something that changes the way people in this situation think and feel about it.... check out the work of Albert Ellis, he seemed to do a lot of work with people in this situation.

Absolutely. It's a manefestation of self-hatred which you transpose to others. Learn to love yourself and not feel guilty about being gay.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.